Physically and Mentally scarred for life

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

My gf-well now ex gf that I  lived with up until last Friday, has tried to destroy me. She has physically attacked me... .giving me a black eye on more than one occasion and multiple bruises. I called the cops on her last Wednesday and she claimed that I was hitting her too... .when all she had was 2 scratches from me trying to defend myself and the cops arrested both of us. I spent 15 hours in central booking and missed work. Then she tried to apologize... .claiming that she loves me more than anything and she would do anything to fix this. (Mind you... .I already told her that the relationship was over the last week in March... .I even agreed to give her 60 days to move out of the apartment that she lives in rent free and has strangers in my home when I'm not there... .I was unaware of all this until 3 weeks ago and would have moved out sooner if I knew how dangerous and heartless she could really be). She then proceeded to bring a disgusting girl into our home and said it was a friend from middle school. The girl went along with it too. An hour later I caught them having sex in our home while I was there. She actually got up put clothes on and threw stuff at me... .yelling for me to get out and screaming that I'm bad in bed... .I'm not even really a lesbian... .etc. I was able to have my super, his wife, and one of my friends move me out within the hour. My stuff is safe in another apartment in the same building for now and I am staying with my brother. The Landlord served her a 30 day notice to move out. I'm the one that was paying the full rent and put down the security deposit on the apartment. The Landlord has given me the option to move in once he gets her out but I could never go back there. She's not going to leave anyway. She has no income and nowhere to go. He's going to wind up having to evict her. I can't believe that this was a person that I spent 2 years of my life with and actually wanted to marry. She has been wrongly diagnosed by her Doctor as being bipolar but my psychiatrist thinks she is BPD and everything I'm reading about BPD sounds 100% like I'm reading about her and our relationship. I'm in shock, disturbed, heartbroken, and scared. I ran history reports on my social media and google accounts. She was even occasionally logging on to my LinkedIn... .it's so bizarre. She hasn't contacted me since I left on Friday and if she ever does I will not even entertain the idea of responding. I just want this all to be over.

[WhataDisaster11]

My gf-well now ex gf that I  lived with up until last Friday, has tried to destroy me. She has physically attacked me... .giving me a black eye on more than one occasion and multiple bruises. I called the cops on her last Wednesday and she claimed that I was hitting her too... .when all she had was 2 scratches from me trying to defend myself and the cops arrested both of us. I spent 15 hours in central booking and missed work. Then she tried to apologize... .claiming that she loves me more than anything and she would do anything to fix this. (Mind you... .I already told her that the relationship was over the last week in March... .I even agreed to give her 60 days to move out of the apartment that she lives in rent free and has strangers in my home when I'm not there... .I was unaware of all this until 3 weeks ago and would have moved out sooner if I knew how dangerous and heartless she could really be). She then proceeded to bring a disgusting girl into our home and said it was a friend from middle school. The girl went along with it too. An hour later I caught them having sex in our home while I was there. She actually got up put clothes on and threw stuff at me... .yelling for me to get out and screaming that I'm bad in bed... .I'm not even really a lesbian... .etc. I was able to have my super, his wife, and one of my friends move me out within the hour. My stuff is safe in another apartment in the same building for now and I am staying with my brother. The Landlord served her a 30 day notice to move out. I'm the one that was paying the full rent and put down the security deposit on the apartment. The Landlord has given me the option to move in once he gets her out but I could never go back there. She's not going to leave anyway. She has no income and nowhere to go. He's going to wind up having to evict her. I can't believe that this was a person that I spent 2 years of my life with and actually wanted to marry. She has been wrongly diagnosed by her Doctor as being bipolar but my psychiatrist thinks she is BPD and everything I'm reading about BPD sounds 100% like I'm reading about her and our relationship. I'm in shock, disturbed, heartbroken, and scared. I ran history reports on my social media and google accounts. She was even occasionally logging on to my LinkedIn... .it's so bizarre. She hasn't contacted me since I left on Friday and if she ever does I will not even entertain the idea of responding. I just want this all to be over.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey WhataD, It's a no-brainer.  Suggest you move over to the Leaving Board.  LJ

[gsm42]

Please take care and be safe!

[hope2727]

So sorry you are enduring this. Please be gentle with yourself. You deserve a healthy happy relationship. Right now you deserve peace and safety. Hugs.

[WhataDisaster11]

Hi LJ. I did leave and I'm not going back.

[felix22]

Wow; just read your post. It hit my heart. I could definitely see my ex doing that. I wonder if she did really. There were situations that added up to that, with another woman. In a tough way I think you lucked out. Only because you had it all laid out, plain and clear, before your eyes.

   

     There was someone on here recently, who had something similar happen. Everyone was trying to persuade them to see the truth clearly; but they kept second-guessing themselves. I'm impressed that you just accepted the reality of it and moved on. That's strong of you.

     How are you doing now that it has been a while? I hope you are well.