thank you for your advice. I didn't get to read it until this morning. I pretty much did all the thing s you mentioned. We got through it without a fight actually, it was good. Other things were discussed but I did not bring up the subject of the tracking my phone but we discussed other relationship issues.
I find the more I discuss the "better" things seem to be. I wasn't controlling in anything. It was good to get my feeling out on the table without it causing a major blow up. At least this time