This is interesting. Since when has your sister been saying that she is transgender? Did anything happen in her life right around the time she started making this claim?
She had come home from her stay at a hospital for suicidal threats about 2 years ago. Since then, she has said she's transgender, but continues to dress and style herself in feminine ways (wears heeled shoes, dresses and makeup). She takes no steps beyond occasionally wearing a male-cut shirt and boxers. She hasn't gone to therapy (which is one of the first steps to transition), hasn't gone to the doctor to ask for hormones, hasn't even changed her birth name to the name she's using now. It's very strange.
It's kind of like if BPD was a style of dress - it's very contradictory. She's done this before, but replace "transgender" with "goth", "punk" and "emo".
Perhaps it might help to do some things you really like doing. If you like watching movies, go see one. Or read a book if that's what you like or go out somewhere. Other things that might help is some intensive physical excercise to get your mind of things and naturally tire yourself out. This way you'll have less time and energy for ruminating.
Very good idea. I'm thinking my BF and some friends might get together that day for some D&:). n_n
