Internet stalking and random contact ?

[Beach_Babe]

Enlighten: ooh those dishes sound good! Whats the name of the cookbook.

Mutt: 90,000 views wow! Yeah see thats the thing. If i knew it was him id be more encouraged to reach out. But i dont. It could be, as you say, a technical thing with Google. The random contact most likely is that ex- mutual friend, but he has done many things against my ex's will before (including supposedly forcing him to get on a scale at 312 pounds... .wow what a  "friend" right?). There is really no evidence my ex is even involved. The ex friend seems intent on continuing the drama, making sure the ex still hates me and making sure I dont forget HIM. He seemed very pissed months ago being blocked. I just didnt feel I had a choice. I made the terrible mistake of comfiding in this psychopath. A price I might have to pay for life. I would have already tried reaching out to my ex had it not been for him. Because of him, and his outsized influence, however, I just remain afraid. Yep I blew it, and will probably have to live with that. It hurts me terribly to still get these reminders (if they arent from my ex). Why wont this other crazy #^&&  go away? Anyone know how do you get rid of a psychopath?

[enlighten me]

Hi beach

I doubt you will find the cookbook as it was discontinued years ago. Its also a British book so weights and measures would be different Caramalised bananas are nice and easy and quick.

Add butter to a pan and melt. Add soft brown and dissolve in butter. Add brandy and give a quick stir. Wait untill it starts to bubble and caramalise. Add bananas cut lengthways. Turn in caramel and serve with ice cream.

I recommend  just finding something you fancy and google the recipe and have a go.

Back to your thread. Social media is a haven for PDs. My ex s love fb. Their behaviour is a joke. Once it upset me now I think it is laughable.  I check fb once a day and dont pay much attention to my exs posts.

[Beach_Babe]

That sounds delicious, thank you for sharing that! ♡

How are you today?

[enlighten me]

Pretty good thanks. Considering my ex wife has set her solicitor on me as our sons no longer want anything to do with her and she thinks im stopping them from contacting her. And my exgf had a rant at me as ive had to cut my maintenance payments.

A while back it would have thrown me off balance and i would have been all over the place. Now though i think im not responsible for how they feel so as long as i keep my moral compass pointing in the right direction then im fine.

How are you doing? Got any projects planned yet?

[Beach_Babe]

Actually considering that cooking class. . I am absolutely horrible.


in other news, got another weird Skype request today. See and this is the thing, I don't want to wonder about stuff like this anymore. Why should I be "afraid" of making contact if it will ultimately give me peace of mind?  I remember one time he came back after over a year, like nothing had happened. Not happening again. If I try it would only be once (still not sure yet); if I am rebuffed, then that's it. But at least I can know I did everything I could, I tried (particularly if we have a coincidental run in and he goes ape**.

Then again, maybe not. I just don't know. But I am tired of being intimidated and afraid.

[enlighten me]

I know what you mean. I used to have sleepless nights before picking up my boys. I used to worry about what the exs would say or do. How I would look to them. Now I sleep like a baby. An odd turn of phrase as most babys wake three or four times a night screaming and quite often soiling themselves .

I think my turning point was realising their opinion didnt matter. The only weapons they had were to paint me black and smear me and to withold my children. I dont care about the smear campaign and they wont withold the children as two now live with me and the other needs her time without my other son so she can be fabulous .