We HAVE to enjoy our life too

[fiveplus]

Hey everyone!  Just a reminder that , no matter what else happens, we HAVE to do all we can to enjoy our lives!

  I mean, THIS is the only one we have.

  It is SO hard to be in these relationships... .and sometimes we just close ourselves off, hide away or forget the things that TRULY make US happy... .because our partner is unable to share our happiness or they make us feel guilty for being happy when aren't.

   I love my husband, but I love myself too! And my happiness is worth fighting for!  He may not understand it, or he may be threatened by it and think that I am pulling away. Part of helping our relationship (and both of us) is leaving him to sooth himself and deal with his own crap sometimes. And BOUNDARIES when he tries to stop me from doing the things I love!

   NOBODY has the right to force you, physically or emotionally , into going when you want to stay... .or staying when you want to go. Or stopping something that enriches YOU, or into being someone you are NOT. In ANY relationship, BPD or not, both parties have the right to be HAPPY, to be the best person they can be.

   So OPEN THAT FRONT DOOR, play some great music. It's nice outside. And you deserve it!

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[Rockylove]

Thank you!  I really needed to see this message today (I probably need to read it EVERY day)

[OffRoad]

Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner!

[Lifewriter16]

My latest breakup was effectively over this. The thing is, I resent being controlled and to me, love flourishes when we allow others to give it freely not when we demand it or try to control them into expressing it.

What are you going to do today? I'm going to meet my friend and enjoy her company and wisdom.

Lifewriter

x

[waverider]

 

Once I made this determination was the day I started to move from survival to thriving as my goal.

It is a major turning point that takes you out of victim mode and leaning more towards owning the right to your own choices.

[Mustbeabetterway]

Thanks for the reminder.   I am going to get out and have a great Saturday.