Here we go again

[twitchy]

17 days of blissful quiet at home and then the peace is over.  Precisely at midnight, a few minutes after going to bed, she started expressing that she felt hurt, that she didn’t understand how I could lie to her in January and make her mentally sick that she tried to kill herself.  She said that I made her sick; I made her do those things.  I stayed quiet, she kept accusing, asking, making a point that she was staying calm and not yelling, yes but she was not allowing me to sleep.  She could not sleep and I guess that means that I can’t keep sleep either.  It escalated to the point that I was yelling and she started throwing things to see if I was going to leave.  She told me to leave then when I walk towards the door, she starts crying and saying where are you going?  I am going crazy!  We were both on the verge of leaving the house but we managed to de-escalate the issue and went to bed.  Of course, she still kept talking, I kept changing the subject.

This morning, she said she doesn’t like to rough it.  I told her I was sorry I brought her to this house.  It’s an old house and needs a lot of work.  She said I told her she is the one that made us move to this house.   

She said she was going to work, I went to her to kiss her good bye and she kissed me but she made a face like she was angry.  I don’t know if she was or not.  She says she loves me but she says so many hurtful things, I call her on those comments and she says that she doesn’t mean them, that she is angry and letting out steam.  Yet she uses what I say and says that she now knows how I really feel.  I tell her she can’t have a double-standard.

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