Push/Pull

[Confused108]

I have a question regarding Push/ Pull. Do people with BPD do this with all of their romantic partners? Or do they just  do Push/ Pull with the people they care and love the most?

[hashtag_loyal]

In general, pwBPD do push/pull with everyone in their life (friends, co-workers, significant others), but especially with romantic partners.

[oceanblue]

My guess is they do it by far the most with romantic partners since romantic partners trigger all those abandonment fears.  But I know my BPD ex could not hold a job long either and probably had 6 different ones in 8 years so he definitely couldn't function in a workplace either.  He also had very few friends and weak relationships with his family.

[MSNYC]

Mine has had push-pull with his dog, his mom, his kids, his exes, his friends, his job, his school... .

[hopealways]

Mine had push/pull with her dog too, so with me it was a given. But typically it is with those who they feel are closest to them because of engulfment fears.

[Infern0]

Most do it with some degree to everyone but it seems to get worse the closer they are to you