Enjoy inflicting pain?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Mine enjoys inflicting pain as well... .emotional or physical. He says terrible things and he is into "porn style" sex. He is a sex addict, so my understanding is that it requires more and more to even get him him off so to speak. This is the reason he cheats I believe as well. He gets bored with the sex pretty quickly. I allowed him to do too much and now I am paying for it physically. I told him those girls are getting paid to do that stuff... .doubt they really like it! Although I realize there are those who do. I just want a normal sex life... .after having to put on a show all the time. Tired of that. I find I am not even interested any more. Mentally he would call me names and put me down. I wonder sometimes like others have said if they punish you by posting all of their "happiness" in a new r/s on FB. I wonder if mine wants me to think he is happy with the new person. I do not believe it at all! When we separated he told me he was on a downward spiral. He said he wasn't happy and I don't think he ever truly is. Now he is telling me he has "feelings" and asking if I do... .I said, yes, you broke my heart! That was to stir it up again, I am sure... .He went back to his hole... .haven't heard any more since I said that. 

[Herodias]

Mine enjoys inflicting pain as well... .emotional or physical. He says terrible things and he is into "porn style" sex. He is a sex addict, so my understanding is that it requires more and more to even get him him off so to speak. This is the reason he cheats I believe as well. He gets bored with the sex pretty quickly. I allowed him to do too much and now I am paying for it physically. I told him those girls are getting paid to do that stuff... .doubt they really like it! Although I realize there are those who do. I just want a normal sex life... .after having to put on a show all the time. Tired of that. I find I am not even interested any more. Mentally he would call me names and put me down. I wonder sometimes like others have said if they punish you by posting all of their "happiness" in a new r/s on FB. I wonder if mine wants me to think he is happy with the new person. I do not believe it at all! When we separated he told me he was on a downward spiral. He said he wasn't happy and I don't think he ever truly is. Now he is telling me he has "feelings" and asking if I do... .I said, yes, you broke my heart! That was to stir it up again, I am sure... .He went back to his hole... .haven't heard any more since I said that. 

[alwaysloving]

Mine would play bite my arm or pinch my arm... when I told her it did not hurt (I was wonder to see how hard she would go) she had a look of excitement on her face as she pinched harder and when I told her to stop.

This girl also ordered a bondage kit... when I asked who is it for she said it was for me... but then later she told me it was a horrible idea... but it kinda makes me wonder if she ever used it or it's still in the shipping carton.

Now thinking it was going to get intimate I got toys for her too and she was excited to see them as well but to this date (2 months or so) I still haven't used them on her nor has she said anything at all (well she has but not serious) about having sex... the most recent on Nov 28th she wanted no strings attached sex but i felt it was a string along... Ive heard the whole (I'm on my period) each time she says she would have sex with me or that shes so in the mood...

I'm not sure if she wants me to be aggressive and get rough because I know each person has their own mood

[AsGoodAsItGets]

I would say yes, the ex did take pleasure in one upping others, getting even, and knowing another was worst off.  Yet she never displayed this towards me.   With ever nutty twist thier was remorse, unfortunately, the crazy evening filled with knife hold, and crying remorse was always followed the next morning with amnesia.  Its a sad illness