waking up to harrassment

[didionit]

It's like they know when you've had a good string of days--and they have to ruin it by texting you 'I hope you're *insert awful graphic sexual violence here*'. 

So, I changed my phone number.  I was always too afraid to before, that it would cause things to escalate, but, we live in different states, and, if the worst that he can do is put intimate photos of me on a website somewhere, well... .it just further illustrates how much this about his BPD, and not about me.

But.  Damn.  I'm still shaking.  (He knows that, as a sexual assault survivor, this is the worst possible thing he could text to me/threaten me with, and how triggering it is for me.  He is a black hole of awfulness.)

[once removed]

im sorry didionit 

thats an ugly thing to say and certainly speaks loudly about him. im glad you changed your phone number. you dont deserve that and theres no reason you should be subjected to it.

[Itstopsnow]

Oh my God! I'm so sorry! My ex did terrible things to me, even spit in my face. Cheated the whole time. And had a second girlfriend and now he cancelled my gym because he ordered it. I paid him my half. I feel my own rage for him now! It doesn't seem fair after all they did to us they still try to punish and attack us! And all we did to warrant this was that we loved them and stayed way too long

[didionit]

Thanks, guys.  I'm so glad I have this community to reach out to!   

[Teereese]

  didionit. I am sorry that your ex did this to you.

Itstopsnow, wow.

Our ex s/o can't just leave well enough alone. They also can't just.let us have good days or weeks.

My stbx plays legal games, as we are divorcing. Just when I start to move forward, his L is filing bs motions to waste both of our monetary resources and wreak a little havoc in my life.

One day, we will be free of them. They will never be free from themselves. Sad

[Itstopsnow]

This sounds horrible but it brings me solace knowing he will continue down his road of lies, spending too much money, gambling, and rages. He will date as many girls as he can and he will just spiral out of control. His family is always there so he won't end up on the streets but if they keep enabling him things could get worse and worse for him

[didionit]

Well, sure enough, he must've tried to call and realized I changed my phone number, so, he posted a photo of me in my underwear on instagram with a long rambling hateful screed attached to it.  And because I'm not naked in it, there's nothing I can do.  Awesome.

[itgirl]

Shame that sucks. Really sorry that he posted pictures. Take screenshots so you have evidence. Maybe you should block him on Instagram. Then he knows you can't see his posts

[didionit]

I took screenshots.  Basically, he went from threatening rape, to visual rape, and, I'm very glad he lives far away.

Also, unfortunately, blocking him would indicate that I was reacting in any way, which always makes this worse--the best thing I can do is continue to ignore him.  It's just frustrating that someone gets to violate you, and, legally, you have little recourse, because it's just not awful enough, six months of this stuff, to warrant any sort of real legal action.

He is a nightmare.