Another Facebook Message from a stranger .

[Confused108]

So this morning I ran out to do some errands and around 930 am I get a FB message on messaged. The persons name is Gift Love. Their profile pic is Heart Injured. The message said the same exact thing it did from another fake FB acct that sent me a message on New Year's Eve at 1:03 pm . They both said Hi Dear. That's it. Well with this last message I said Hi exs name. They within 10 mins deleted the acct. what's up with this? Is it my ex playing games? And if so what does she want?

[Confused?]

I don't know your current situation with your ex. My ex only seemed to reach out to me when she was alone and depressed. Whether it was a phone call from a blocked number where I said hello and she hung up or just a text message telling me how sorry she was for everything. I can't speak for a pwBPD but what I do know from experience is that they seem to just want to be aknowledged. Even if it's been months or years, they need to feel important and the way they do this is just by getting an answer. I wouldn't doubt that it is your ex and by simply responding to her might have been all that she needed in that moment. I have completely given up on trying to dissect why any pwBPD does anything they do. My ex was right about one thing and that is that nobody understands her.

[JRT]

It might be your ex... .but at the same time, those types of exchanges are commonplace on FB; I get them all of them time... .they are usually looking to gain access to your freinds list after you accept a friend request ultimately from them.

[Confused108]

It might be your ex... .but at the same time, those types of exchanges are commonplace on FB; I get them all of them time... .they are usually looking to gain access to your freinds list after you accept a friend request ultimately from them.

I have been on FB for years and never had this happen before. Also they never sent me a friends request. So I would believe this if only my ex and myself never happened again. Just by the name and her profile pic is weird in itself.

[JRT]

the friend request happens down the line after they have gained some trust or captivated yoru interest. Or they will ask for you to email them. Here is one that I got today:

Dilan Yildiz is in your contacts

Went to smk muhhamadiyah 2 kuningan

Lives in Cikijing, Jawa Barat, Indonesia

•   Conversation started today

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8:57am

Dilan Yildiz

HeI how are you

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9:21amYou accepted Dilan's request.

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9:21am

JRT

Hi... .do we know one another?

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10:03am

Dilan Yildiz

Thanks this is my email contact me (dilanyildiz33@hotmail.com)

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10:26am

JRT

For what?

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10:46am

Dilan Yildiz

contact me my email i send to you

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10:47am

JRT

Why would I want to do that?



As I mentioned... .yours might be your ex... .but it is also possible that it might be one of these scams... .I get 3 or so a week.

[Confused108]

I totally get what your saying. I have heard about this before. But if it was a regular fake person pic I would just say eh maybe. But this one Gift Love is their FB name and Heart Injured is their profile pic? I'm an ex cop and that alone smells fishy to me. And myself and my ex were 1st loves as teens. Then she found me 28 years later. She was very dramatic and romantic. It just does smell very fishy to me.

[Confused108]

I feel if they were a scammer they would have tried already. Not playing these cat and mouse games. It's just all too much of a coincidence.

[Confused108]

I don't know your current situation with your ex. My ex only seemed to reach out to me when she was alone and depressed. Whether it was a phone call from a blocked number where I said hello and she hung up or just a text message telling me how sorry she was for everything. I can't speak for a pwBPD but what I do know from experience is that they seem to just want to be aknowledged. Even if it's been months or years, they need to feel important and the way they do this is just by getting an answer. I wouldn't doubt that it is your ex and by simply responding to her might have been all that she needed in that moment. I have completely given up on trying to dissect why any pwBPD does anything they do. My ex was right about one thing and that is that nobody understands her.

confused my ex and I were 1st loves. My mom broke us up and my ex went crazy and her family sent her to a mental hospital for like 2 months. When I tried behind my moms back to get her back she did push/ pull I love u no I can't do this. After that she moved and I never saw her again. Now thru FB she found me and we started again u til she dumped me in Sept and had it out with my ex wife by sending her confusing FB messages. The last contact I had with her was Dec 8 of last year when she went all crazy telling my ex wife to tell me to stay outta her life she is getting back with her ex husband blah blah. I found out thru a mutual friend that was not true. Then on New Year's Eve I started getting these FB messages. Just Hi Dear . Nothing more . then it happens again today. With a new FB account .No friends request  no link to click nothing like that. It's just weird.

[JRT]

I'll go along with that... .the name itself prompts suspicion... .BPD's seem to all use the same tactics... .mine did the breaking up and was doing all sorts of electronic stalking of me including calling and hanging up, FB stalking and even calling some friends (one form here!).

[Rmbrworst]

Either its a bot/scam.

Or its your ex playing games.

Either situation is unacceptable.  Put it in your memory banks under "dont go there" and forget about it.  My eyes are rolling so hard right now.  Good lord, be an adult and initiate a REAL conversation please.  Use your words.  (feeling salty today)

[Confused108]

I'll go along with that... .the name itself prompts suspicion... .BPD's seem to all use the same tactics... .mine did the breaking up and was doing all sorts of electronic stalking of me including calling and hanging up, FB stalking and even calling some friends (one form here!).

Yup been doing that one too! Blocking name and number on my caller id. I get that only on Sunday afternoons ! Crazy for sure!

[Confused108]

Either its a bot/scam.

Or its your ex playing games.

Either situation is unacceptable.  Put it in your memory banks under "dont go there" and forget about it.  My eyes are rolling so hard right now.  Good lord, be an adult and initiate a REAL conversation please.  Use your words.  (feeling salty today)

I agree! Believe me I am never ever going back with my ex ever! I feel it is her and since I have not  been in contact with her since last Dec she must be missing the attention. So I feel by doing this she may think I'm going to text her or email/ call to accuse her. Well baby it's not gonna happen.  Never will be fooled again!

[Rmbrworst]

Either its a bot/scam.

Or its your ex playing games.

Either situation is unacceptable.  Put it in your memory banks under "dont go there" and forget about it.  My eyes are rolling so hard right now.  Good lord, be an adult and initiate a REAL conversation please.  Use your words.  (feeling salty today)

I agree! Believe me I am never ever going back with my ex ever! I feel it is her and since I have not  been in contact with her since last Dec she must be missing the attention. So I feel by doing this she may think I'm going to text her or email/ call to accuse her. Well baby it's not gonna happen.  Never will be fooled again!

LOL. I love it.

[MakingMyWay]

I had a similar situation, but it was a profile picture taken from the internet. The profile had 0 mutual friends, but lived in my city and went to a uni close to mine. I was the only person on their friend list who was from the same city. I didn't get a message from them or anything because I blocked them pretty quick. Hopefully it sent my ex a message if it was her, because I haven't gotten anything since.

[Confused108]

Yea most likely it was your ex. I have found that these ppl need a constant supply of attention. Let's Not give it to them!

[greenmonkey]

Over the last 16 months I have had everything - fake accounts checking me out, no profile picture and 0 friends, regularly, both me and my daughter. We have had blatant stock images pinched and used on profile picture again with 2 friends no mutual ones. we have had messages from fake accounts, fake friend requests and most recently a fake profile using my surname requesting me on Game Center.

My BPC ex trys every to get my attention - so I will open lines of communication with her, even it is accusing her of xyz, any form of attention whether negative or positive works in her favour.

Just keep on the ball and be aware over time you get used to it, I just photograph every instance and keep a record for police info for when she makes a mistake and I never respond to anything.

[Confused108]

Thanks Green  I have been. Anyway here is another UPDATE: I today went in my Facebook account using my computer. I wil be honest I really use my cel for a majority of things but let's face it... They are not computers. So I went to messages and user filtered messages guess what?  Yup again I received another message. This time with no profile picture and it was sent via mobile  and it was on Monday Feb 1, 2016. Some girls name and it just said hello. . As everyone knows I got another yesterday . So as this phantom FB messenger addict sends me either Hi Dear messages or Hello ones they after 5 min delete their accounts. I have every reason to believe it's my ex. As mentioned before I get no links to click no real conversations just 2 hello dears from 2 different fake accounts and one hello from a third fake account. Jesh I wish the hell I had all that time on my hands that it seems my ex does. Now here is the thing, do I contact her telling her to stop? Even though I know I have no proof what's so ever . Or just shut my mouth and let her continue making a total a$$ of herself? Decisions Decisions!

[shatra]

confused wrote---

she went all crazy telling my ex wife to tell me to stay outta her life she is getting back with her ex husband blah blah. I found out thru a mutual friend that was not true.

-----So she lied about reuniting with her ex... .sounds like she had the "fantasY" of rapprochement (push-pull)!  I wonder how common that is,  that they build up the fantasy of being back with the lost loved one, aside from trying to push-pull so often in reality!

---Yes it sounds like it's your ex contacting you

[Confused108]

I have been dealing with her push pull since our teens. I don't believe she ever loved her ex husband. I think she married him to escape her family's my ex is Indian and Bermese. I do believe her family tried a lot to control her. Did I love her. Yes. I would do anything for her to be cured of this . But that is just wishful thinking. I believe she wanted to be with me . But she had thought I was with someone else when my Mother broke us up bc that is what my Mother told her. It was not true. I told her this when we reconnected and after one of her many push /pulls with me she all but told me she wanted me but was afraid when she committed to me in the past. Out of everyone I have been with she was the only one that held my heart. But now as an adult I know "we" will never be. Just have to accept it and move on.