Don't know how to help

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Hi,my sister has BPD and she can be sweet as pie one day,and the next,she's a different person,mean,nasty,blames everyone for the way her life turned out,she texts very very mean things,lost all her friends and takes her anger and hate out on me and my sister and brother,she goes go therpist and a doctor but there not helping,her melds aren't helping,I won't even answer her anymore cause it just feeds her anger,I hate to see her like this but I don't know what else to do,this has been going on for years,help!

[Jezzable]

Hi,my sister has BPD and she can be sweet as pie one day,and the next,she's a different person,mean,nasty,blames everyone for the way her life turned out,she texts very very mean things,lost all her friends and takes her anger and hate out on me and my sister and brother,she goes go therpist and a doctor but there not helping,her melds aren't helping,I won't even answer her anymore cause it just feeds her anger,I hate to see her like this but I don't know what else to do,this has been going on for years,help!

[Kwamina]

Hi Jezzable and welcome to bpdfamily

You've been dealing with this for years and that can really be quite draining. Having a sibling with BPD can be very challenging indeed.

You mention that your sister does go to a therapist and takes meds but that this unfortunately isn't helping. How long has she been seeing a therapist and taking medication? What kind of therapy is she getting?

Your sister is verbally abusive which is quite unpleasant. You also mention how she blames others for the way her life turned out. Do you feel that your sister has ever in any way acknowledged that there might be something wrong with her behavior or that she at least contributes to the problems she is having?

Take care