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« on: March 15, 2016, 02:13:12 AM »

Who can relate to this song with your Parent's

My BPD Mother had all the power over my dad, My dad love her to Death but her destructive borderline ways push him away, my mother use to spent all his money for alcohol and go out with different men and she came home different hours in the morning. He was with her for 18 years because he love her who she was but not her borderline that in her. Sadly they separated because my Mum was to sick to handle any relationships in her life.  SadlyHer BPD killed her in the end with her risky behaviour.

When a man loves a woman

Can't keep his mind on nothing else

He'll trade the world

For the good thing he's found

If she's bad he can't see it

She can do no wrong

Turn his back on his best friend

If he put her down

When a man loves a woman

Spend his very last dime

Trying to hold on to what he needs

He'd give up all his comfort

Sleep out in the rain

If she said that's the way it ought to be

Well, this man loves a woman

I gave you everything I had

Trying to hold on to your precious love

Baby, please don't treat me bad

When a man loves a woman

Down deep in his soul

She can bring him such misery

If she plays him for a fool

He's the last one to know

Loving eyes can't ever see

When a man loves a woman

He can do no wrong

He can never own some other girl

Yes when a man loves a woman

I know exactly how he feels

'Cause baby, baby, baby, you're my world

When a man loves a woman



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« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2016, 01:03:15 PM »

It does illustrate your point, also it’s a rhythm and blues song, and apparently we can’t write the blues unless we’ve experienced it.

Do you find music allows you to explore emotions that we weren’t allowed to show as children of a BPD ?

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« Reply #2 on: March 15, 2016, 05:21:28 PM »

When I was a child I never explore emotion regarding my Mum. I was to focus on her pain. Now i'm mature enough to explored what I went through as a child by therapy and on my own. I think music is a powerful thing and this song I relate to it so much because it's sound like my parents painful love story. When I listened to the song all these painful memories came to my mind.
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« Reply #3 on: March 18, 2016, 04:44:49 AM »

When I was a child I never explore emotion regarding my Mum. I was to focus on her pain. Now i'm mature enough to explored what I went through as a child by therapy and on my own. I think music is a powerful thing and this song I relate to it so much because it's sound like my parents painful love story. When I listened to the song all these painful memories came to my mind.

Exactly the same with me. Music has been a controlled way to explore these emotions. But the really spooky thing, was that when I realised about BPD I started to understand the lyrics to my most sole soothing songs I always listened to, as you do, and found out my two top band, both experienced and wrote about someone with a PD. So Oasis’s father has a PD and was very abusive and The Arctic Monkeys also wrote explicit lyrics about it. Makes me wonder if we share close pain through the rhythm of the music?

However both those bands are termed teenage angst music. Bit different to the one you present. But the Eagles lyrics also go on endlessly about Desperado, and Evil Woman. Maybe we should create a thread to put together a recovery playlist ? Broken into the stages of recovery. So starting with realisation, onto anger, then acceptance . Noel from Oasis now hangs out with Russle Brand (who’s believed to have a PD) so I’m guessing he’s over it.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

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