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So a couple days ago I posted about the most recent break up - I was flat out ignored for a whole weekend, told we need to talk and then on Monday of this week told "I can't be with you" with no explanation. Well we finally communicated a little and she told me that she had a long talk with her Mom over the weekend and I guess she decided she wasn't happy with me/our relationship and that we weren't meant for each other. That was the gist of what she communicated, I think. She followed it up with the typical "I love you so much, I will never forget you, I wish this could've worked," but I'm not sure I believe any of it. I want to believe it, but it's hard to. Also she was throwing in "don't be a stranger" and "keep in touch", and then towards the end of the conversation she wrote "I don't know if I can be without you... .dammit" I didn't respond after that point and we haven't communicated since then.
Can somebody please help me shed some light on what happened here? Why did she ignore me for the whole weekend... . was it really that hard to communicate? Or do you think this is manipulation and mind games.
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Sometimes silence is merely due to not knowing what or how to say something or just not having anything to say at all.
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True, but if that's the case why a few days later is it suddenly so easy to say?
I could never do that to someone I love/cared about though. Intentionally ignore them and know they are worried/hurting inside... . C.Stein, this girl has broken up with me countless times and it was always so easy for her - that's what doesn't make sense to me. I asked/pleaded with her to talk to me and let me know what was going on, but she didn't. Don't you think that's immature, selfish and extremely hurtful?
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PwBPD have the emotional landscape of a 5 year old. They cannot respond or act as a emotionally mature person. I think you expect something from her she cannot give. Not to you or anybody else. The same goes for the wanting to make sense of what she said, did etc from a logical point of view. PwBPD often do not understand their own emotions, reasonings, actions. How then can we, as NONs and outsiders, possibly make sense of it?
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Quote from: hellogoodbye2424 on March 25, 2016, 10:03:14 AM
True, but if that's the case why a few days later is it suddenly so easy to say?
I don't know. All I (and you) can do is speculate. I think many times you will find there isn't a rational or logical reason for the confusing behavior. That is something you will just have to find some way to accept. I know it is hard and it hurts when someone treats you like that.
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