ExBPD Therapist request to me

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hello Group,

So I'm going through my emails this morning and I received a request from my exBPD therapist via the website to join my "professional connections" and I'm not really sure how to respond to the request. I'm somewhat confused & actually at a loss for words?

Why would they request to join "MY" network?

What would be the advantage or disadvantage of such a connection for my professional connections?

Is there a secondary motive to this request currently unknown to me?

Is it a way for a "3rd party" to obtain additional information on me to help in his therapy session with my exBPD or is this a little paranoid?

Is this even ethical giving the fact that he is ... .or at least was treating my exBPD ... .not sure if he still is or not?

Please feel free to put out any and all ideas, thoughts and suggestions you might have. I'm really not sure where I was to put this thread but wanted to bounce it off you, "my group ... .my people" ... . ... .to get your thoughts on it.  What if the request came to you?  What would be your thoughts on it?

I'm scratching my head ... .

thanks in advance for your thoughts & inputs

J

[JQ]

Hello Group,

So I'm going through my emails this morning and I received a request from my exBPD therapist via the website to join my "professional connections" and I'm not really sure how to respond to the request. I'm somewhat confused & actually at a loss for words?

Why would they request to join "MY" network?

What would be the advantage or disadvantage of such a connection for my professional connections?

Is there a secondary motive to this request currently unknown to me?

Is it a way for a "3rd party" to obtain additional information on me to help in his therapy session with my exBPD or is this a little paranoid?

Is this even ethical giving the fact that he is ... .or at least was treating my exBPD ... .not sure if he still is or not?

Please feel free to put out any and all ideas, thoughts and suggestions you might have. I'm really not sure where I was to put this thread but wanted to bounce it off you, "my group ... .my people" ... . ... .to get your thoughts on it.  What if the request came to you?  What would be your thoughts on it?

I'm scratching my head ... .

thanks in advance for your thoughts & inputs

J

[once removed]

in my non professional opinion, not ethical. i wouldnt respond.

[troisette]

It's an unprofessional request and not respecting your boundaries. I would ignore it.

On the other hand, after being inactive for a couples of years, I responded to a Linked In request. Linked In then generated loads of requests on my behalf, and without my knowledge, to people on my email list. I didn't realise they had access to it.

So it may be a genuine error if you are on the therapist's email list. But I still wouldn't respond.

[steelwork]

I've heard that linkedin somehow sends out these requests automatically. I don't know. I hate to think linkedin is sending out requests on my behalf. Anyhow, goes without saying to ignore it, and take note of the fact that it upset you, and use that as a measuring stick. Remember that you're still healing.

Sorry that happened.

[lunchbox123]

I would reply and ask what the idea is.

Personally I would love to talk to my ex's therapist. I don't think she knows anywhere near the scope of her actions. Besides being able to vent, something I can't do to my surroundings, I think it would let her therapist know how bad things really get and that her current treatment is far from adequate.