Something my exBPDs sister in law revealed about her that hit me this morning

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Hello everyone

Something my son's aunt told me a while back about my exBPDgf that sent chills down my spine. Aunt was talking about my exBPDgf first marrage and how mean she was to her then husband. Then she brought up her new relationship and what she said shocked me but didn't surprise me, she said her relationships last just as long as she wants them too.

Insinuating my exs coldness, calculated approach to relationships. This is certainly what I experienced in our relationship. It was all about her and NO compromise. This is a huge red flag or maybe a better word is obstacle?

How can there be a healthy relationship when one individual has complete control and will not budge?

And yes the coldness and thought of love to her was just functionality?

Her emotions are controlled so that seems unreal, I know I never saw her cry other than for herself.

This truly shows my ex in a way that I find frightening and someone I would choose to stay clear of.

Another thing is it seems like people are mear toys, objects to her. No wonder she recycled me and never let go of me. I'm just a body to her.

If I am just a body, does this reflect what she is to herself?

Thanks everyone.

[JerryRG]

Hello everyone

Something my son's aunt told me a while back about my exBPDgf that sent chills down my spine. Aunt was talking about my exBPDgf first marrage and how mean she was to her then husband. Then she brought up her new relationship and what she said shocked me but didn't surprise me, she said her relationships last just as long as she wants them too.

Insinuating my exs coldness, calculated approach to relationships. This is certainly what I experienced in our relationship. It was all about her and NO compromise. This is a huge red flag or maybe a better word is obstacle?

How can there be a healthy relationship when one individual has complete control and will not budge?

And yes the coldness and thought of love to her was just functionality?

Her emotions are controlled so that seems unreal, I know I never saw her cry other than for herself.

This truly shows my ex in a way that I find frightening and someone I would choose to stay clear of.

Another thing is it seems like people are mear toys, objects to her. No wonder she recycled me and never let go of me. I'm just a body to her.

If I am just a body, does this reflect what she is to herself?

Thanks everyone.