Was this behaviour planned? Certainly feels like it

[cherryblossom]

Just wondering because someone said its not about u its about him - but i cant help but feel this was a planned behaviour - he finally paid back money he owed me which was last tie to me, then few days later puts a profile pic up of him and female. It feels v passive aggressive and dont understand why he is still punishing me when should be happy with this new person. Is it to do with abandonment? He has new person to focus on? If he had any respect for me he would not do this. What exactly does devalue mean?

[JerryRG]

Hello CB

I have heard they never truly let go, my exgf says she's happy and her life with her new bf is wonderful. It's all smoke and mirrors, pwBPD are hollow empty shells, need constant attention because they cannot provide those feelings for themselves. My exgf demanded constant attention and no matter how much I gave it was never enough.

They are not happy, never content, always negitive, miserable, selfish, immature and never get better, well truly better, they think another person holds the key to their happiness.

Very limited, immature thinking. They made us believe we were their everything and we are human and gave in because we wanted to be happy and be with someone happy.

How soon did you discover nothing we did made them happy?

And who wants to live with miserable people, grew up with them and life is what we make of it, A T T I T U D E and gratefulness and pwBPD think the world need conform to their pitiful victum hood

They punish us because they are miserable and need to share it.

I hope you feel better CB

[gotbushels]

Whether he planned it or not, what does how he acted signal to you about him as a person?

It irked me too when my ex did that within a few weeks (?not sure how long it took) of our breakup. It helps to recall a handful of outrageous things they did to you.