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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: May 20, 2016, 10:26:33 AM »

ok so just found out about affairs

1 best friend in canada she is sleeping with

2 my best friend in canada she is sleeping with, and wants a relationship!

3 her best female freinds husband in canada she is sleeping with

4 an other married man used to make my best friend jealous!

5 a woman having threesomes with best females friends husband

she dosnt want the divorce on grounds of adultary as she would never do that to me

roflmfao

divorce then release all the info!  
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« Reply #1 on: May 20, 2016, 10:34:06 AM »

Wow!  That's horrible.  I'm sorry.
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« Reply #2 on: May 20, 2016, 10:49:58 AM »

this has to hurt, im sorry  . it also has to be a major shock to imagine all this going on behind your back, from your wife, and your best friend. were you privy to any signs?

divorce then release all the info! 

why?
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« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2016, 09:48:47 AM »

this has to hurt, im sorry  . it also has to be a major shock to imagine all this going on behind your back, from your wife, and your best friend. were you privy to any signs?

divorce then release all the info! 

why?

i have been villified by her flying monkeys, i believed her lies.

now i know the truth, i will release it. i will not protect her anymore
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« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2016, 10:00:15 AM »

will you protect yourself?

releasing your info keeps you engaged in the drama, and there may be retaliation.

now that you know the truth, release the attachment  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #5 on: May 26, 2016, 07:08:25 PM »

"she dosnt want the divorce on grounds of adultary as she would never do that to me"

So awful... .so sorry. Mine cheated most of my marriage too. He told me all kinds of things that happened when it was over. He doesn't want me to file on adultery now either. Too bad. To me that is the only way I can finally call him out on his behavior. I can't imagine not doing it! He is lucky I am not filing on grounds of abuse, adultery and alcoholism.
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« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2016, 05:10:03 AM »

been through this with my T this is my plan i am sticking to it it is what i want

it is the only way to clear my name!

i am moving on divorce then full disclosure then walk away!
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« Reply #7 on: May 27, 2016, 05:26:57 AM »

I hadn't thought of it clearing my name! Smart! I only thought of not doing it would clear his name! You are right, a judge needs proof of adultery- it will clear my name! WOWosh- of course there

may still be people that choose to believe him. People can look up court records, correct? Does it show the grounds for the divorce?
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« Reply #8 on: May 27, 2016, 06:15:35 AM »

ok so just found out about affairs

1 best friend in canada she is sleeping with

2 my best friend in canada she is sleeping with, and wants a relationship!

3 her best female freinds husband in canada she is sleeping with

4 an other married man used to make my best friend jealous!

5 a woman having threesomes with best females friends husband

she dosnt want the divorce on grounds of adultary as she would never do that to me

roflmfao

divorce then release all the info! 

This is really horrific. My sympathies to you married21years. May you have peace and I hope your decision from here also gives you rest.
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« Reply #9 on: May 27, 2016, 06:57:16 AM »

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« Reply #10 on: May 27, 2016, 06:58:29 AM »

ok so just found out about affairs

1 best friend in canada she is sleeping with

2 my best friend in canada she is sleeping with, and wants a relationship!

3 her best female freinds husband in canada she is sleeping with

4 an other married man used to make my best friend jealous!

5 a woman having threesomes with best females friends husband

she dosnt want the divorce on grounds of adultary as she would never do that to me

roflmfao

divorce then release all the info! 

This is really horrific. My sympathies to you married21years. May you have peace and I hope your decision from here also gives you rest.

thx bud  it is my decision i am living my life how i want the chips may fall where they fall 

but i will live my life my way no more manipulation  Smiling (click to insert in post)

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« Reply #11 on: May 27, 2016, 08:38:45 AM »

been through this with my T this is my plan i am sticking to it it is what i want

it is the only way to clear my name!

i am moving on divorce then full disclosure then walk away!

i might have misread you here, married21years, sorry about that. when you say release the info, do you mean in a legal/court context?
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« Reply #12 on: May 27, 2016, 09:07:58 AM »

been through this with my T this is my plan i am sticking to it it is what i want

it is the only way to clear my name!

i am moving on divorce then full disclosure then walk away!

i might have misread you here, married21years, sorry about that. when you say release the info, do you mean in a legal/court context?

hi no i will release all the info i have into the public domain.

i have been covering for her, no longer. while she destroyed my good name

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« Reply #13 on: May 27, 2016, 02:35:31 PM »

I understand your pain... just be careful. Get a lawyer... .they will tell you to be very careful with what you do for the public to see. At least wait until you are divorced- then have at it, if you want. You have to be so careful. My separation papers say that we are free to live apart without harassment. The could be contempt of court if you say anything too soon. Hopefully you live in a state where you can get divorced sooner than later. Think out what you do before you do it... .make sure you don't harm yourself in the midst of anger.
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