NPD father with Alzheimer's

[Narkiss]

I am posting on behalf of a friend whose NPD  father has Alzheimer's. She is an only child. He is here illegally and has no benefits (no health insurance, Medicare or Medicaid). She has been taking care of him. He is abusive and it is literally ruining her life. What does she do? Walk away?

[Naughty Nibbler]

HEY NARKISS:

How nice of you to try and help your friend out.

I am posting on behalf of a friend whose NPD  father has Alzheimer's. She has been taking care of him. He is abusive and it is literally ruining her life.

I don't know where you live, but I'll assume the US.  Some things would depend on the state in which she lives.  Is your friend a citizen?

How old is her father?  Can you give some examples of the abuse (any of it physical?)

What does she do? Walk away?

It can be a touch situation when someone has Alzheimer's.  Has your friend tried to reach out to some resource for Alzheimer's in the area she lives in?  

[Narkiss]

Yes, she's a US citizen. The abuse is verbal. He largely ignored her as a child and she has had little to do with him since. In general it is very difficult for her to deal with him.

[HappyChappy]

Hi Narkis,

It does sound like your friend could use support right now, so it’s great that you’re helping. You ask an important question, a big question. There are many option to explore.

There are techniques you can learn such as improved communication techniques that gets the best out of someone with NPD. But also techniques to help your friend heal from the past effects of a NPD parent. Possibly charities or social service help, depending on your geography.

Alzima’s and NPD are both challenging and distressful conditions, which one is predominating here ? But whatever, you have this website as a resource to help with the NPD aspects. Feel free to explore these options by asking question, sharing concerns or checking out some of the articles. But it’s great that you’re supporting your friend, I expect that will mean a lot.