How I know they don't change with the replacement...

[Herodias]

So now that you have read my story, I am going to share with you why I believe they do not change. I have had the opportunity to watch my now ex-husband's relationship with the replacement through Facebook. She was one of the women he messed around with in the past. In fact, they were written up for messing around at work, since he was a manager and she worked directly with him. They were separated after her husband came to the store and asked to have her moved. When I caught the other woman in my bed on Xmas, he moved out. He told me he slept with two other women, but I now know he was seeing this one at the same time, because they both had pinkeye together in Feb.'15  when the store seemed to forget and put the two of them back together. She decided they were meant to be and after love-bombing her husband in Feb.'15, she left him for mine in March. The two of them went on a trip together to Tennessee where she is from and she took him to the same place she honeymooned with her husband! She posted pictures right after he and I were legally separated. That's how I found out. Mind you, he is still texting me that he loves me everyday and telling me he is trying to quit drinking. Then she starts posting all of the love-bombing crap about finding the one, he completes me, the flowers he bought her, the little notes he leaves her (does she think he didn't do all of the with me?), he calls her "Bella" which I would not let him do that with me because I knew he did it with his last gf. It's all his game... .So while he is telling me he is not drinking, she is posting pictures of him on the couch with a beer. He doesn't know I am seeing all of this. Then he tells me he is at a party thinking about me and she is posting a picture of her painting while he is sitting there on his cell phone texting me! They go on another trip, the minute they get back he begs me to let him see me. He comes over drunk, texting with her- showing me the texts. She is apologizing for everything, saying it's all her fault. He is giggling and laughing and telling me it's all over with them and he wants to come home to his wife and he is done womanizing. He pees in my bed twice that night. He tells me he can manipulate me and he can manipulate her. Then back they go for more... .I tell him I am done with him for good. Not to even consider calling me again, yet he does when he needs money to go home to Connecticut. I said no! He was so angry. We don't speak for awhile, then I see more love-bombing. He now has her dressing like him. She also pushes him to move in with her... .I see all of this on there-seriously! He does, then he is calling me telling me he doesn't like her whiney dogs. She gets him a cat... he didn't take his because he said he couldn't take care if it.He probably told her I wouldn't let him have it. Then on our anniversary- she posts "feeling queasy"... we all know what that means! She deletes it and now I know she is pregnant. In November he calls me drunk and tells me that she is pregnant, but I could take him back! I didn't budge. I asked if he was going to marry her and he said, he didn't want to because he didn't want to owe her alimony and child support due to the future women! On Xmas he emails me ranting about it is the best Xmas he ever had with me gone! Then in Jan.'16, he asks if I want to be the babies aunt! At one point, he and the girl in my bed and his gf all become friends on Facebook. This girl knows he has BPD. He must have been triangulating because next thing you know they are not all "friends" and the gf is saying "the trash takes itself out"... .Shows you he is still messing with that one. There is also the woman he calls the stalker that had all the same love-bombing stuff on her Facebook. THE SAME STUFF! She wrote to me to ask if I was his ex-wife. I said, no, I am his wife and I have since found out there are 6 women he has been with during my marriage and asked if she was another one! Anyway, postings about babies starts and he is still trying to text me and see me up until Feb. of this year. I don't fall for it. He says "I am trying" I said, "trying what exactly?" I filed for a divorce on adultery in march and he fought it. I never heard anymore from him because he got an attorney after I told him he was going to have to pay all the legal fees. Dumb mistake on my part. They posted pregnancy pictures on Facebook with herself exposed on the beach- once again dressing how he would want her to be dressed. She had the baby a month ago... .he is posting all of that now too. She has changed her posts to private which is good for me really, but I hope you will see, nothing changes. I watched all of the love-bombing, but know from behind the scenes what the truth is. He told me she doesn't like his drinking.  She claims she is happy with a man that is poor... now she has it -he lost his job. It won't be long before he is off with someone new... .

[atomic popsicles]

BH-

You are amazing. My stbx is sure FB is the NBA watching him so he won't use it, but I would be torn with wanting to know and devastated. Wow.

[seenr]

BlueHeron

Have you had counseling/therapy?

You have been through so much, I never had infidelity, I cannot imagine what that must do to a person. There really is so much in your last few posts - I am surprised you are not in a worse off condition.

You must be a strong person!

[Herodias]

BlueHeron

Have you had counseling/therapy?

You have been through so much, I never had infidelity, I cannot imagine what that must do to a person. There really is so much in your last few posts - I am surprised you are not in a worse off condition.

You must be a strong person!

Thanks Yes, I have been through some amazing stuff... .even with my last r/s before my marriage. I am a strong person... .I don't always feel that way, but I have dealt with allot. I had therapy while I was with him, but never put it all together until the time came to get out. I am still learning. I listen to talks every morning while I get ready for work... .It's good to get allot of opinions. I don't claim to be an expert. but I know my ex. It is amazing how they are all so similar. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" right?