Hey seenr-
I've previously asked in another thread 'who's the borderline?' as I have read topics here and wondered was my behaviour as bad or worse than that of my ex. So just wanted to run things by you all again to get your thoughts on it.
It's common to take on some of the traits of our exes in these relationships, fleas they're called, but if they go away once we're out there's no reason to believe you have this disorder, plus someone showing up here and being introspective is not something a borderline would do, unless they're mirroring someone who is.
And beyond that, we all have attachment styles and a given level of emotional maturity, and that shows up in our relationship and communication skills. I did very poorly there, and had I been as mature and centered as I feel today, I think I would have walked away after our first date, but we never know until we're in it.
My question is have any of you ever ran from Borderline personalities? Has it ever got so much that you had to get away and be away from that person for whatever reason?
Oh yes, I fled the relationship with what was left of my sanity, pure self preservation, and I credit myself with at least knowing, when deep in it, that it was highly dysfunctional and unhealthy, while also realizing a good deal of it was my own dysfunction in the face of chaos.
A relationship is either healthy or it's not. The two people in it are either compatible or they're not. The behaviors are either acceptable or they're not. Sometimes a relationship should end.
Not sure if I answered your question, not sure what answers you're trying to get?
