A poem that reminds me of all of us that have been forgotten by a BPD ex.

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Sadly this is how I feel.

But as of today,  although my ex and I are no longer friends online,  I am not viewing her social media.
No contact with her,  has left social media as the only thing left

Seeing photos of her apparently so happy and with the replacement tells me the only way I can ever move on is if I stop looking at it

No more.

[Indifferent28]

Sadly this is how I feel.

But as of today,  although my ex and I are no longer friends online,  I am not viewing her social media.
No contact with her,  has left social media as the only thing left

Seeing photos of her apparently so happy and with the replacement tells me the only way I can ever move on is if I stop looking at it

No more.

[Sadly]

Indi that is so sad and so lovely. It helps doesn't it. Well done on the social media front. I keep looking, why I don't know, it's like picking at a scab. He hasn't got someone else yet but I guess it will only be a matter of time. I should stop before I see it. Keep writing   x

[StayStrongNow]

Thanks for posting, you are not alone, I am right there too.

[Wize]

Dang.  Crumpled up in the bottom of her drawer. 

[Indifferent28]

Thank you guys. Glad (well not glad because i wish no one had to deal with this) but glad that we aren't alone in this matter. Imagine if we had no one to discuss this about that could relate.

Yeah, "crumpled in the bottom of the drawer" reminds me of how desperate we are for someone even after they've clearly left us behind. We'd even take that, if it meant them remembering us or acknowledging us.

Sadly,
Yes, you should definitely try to stop viewing the social media. Because when/if he gets a replacement, it's going to become even more addictive.
I know that when my ex was single, id look for poems or even sad photos she'd post. She would post some and i'd think maybe she was sad, because she missed me. No, it was just either her usual emotions, or something with a replacement not working out :/

She never wanted children, now nearly every day, there are posts with her new "kid" (they're both girls), the replacements child. They're like one big happy little family. It kills me each time I see it, especially knowing that the replacement has messaged me last month wanting to
"ask me questions", and will only do it in person. Basically, it must be about my ex and she withholds this info from my ex.

If only my ex knew she was messaging me.

[Sadly]

Crumpled is me too right now Indi.
I will definitely get off Facebook. I so don't want to pile hurt on hurt. Do girl kids butt people? One can live in hope.
Oops, replacement not happy eh? Poor guy, he will find out the hard way I guess, to be honest I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. X

[Indifferent28]

Sadly,

I meant two girls, as in the person i am talking about is a girl and dating a girl (the replacement). I myself, am also a girl.

The replacement ran her mouth to her friends who knew mutual friends of mine, a month into their relationship. The replacement wanted to dump my ex only a month in, and would show text messages of their arguments to her friends (yes they were arguing a month in).

However, maybe they have improved. If you view their social media, it would appear they never have problems.
But by that, and the fact that the girl friend wants to ask me things, tells me something isn't right on their end.

I think the new girl friend is quite crazy. In fact, my ex told me that before she even began dating her.
The replacement thought it was "ok" to ask me to go hangout with them, when i went home from work one day and they coincidentally, were swimming in the pool directly in front of my apartment. So yes, i think the replacement is nutsy.

[Sadly]

 , sorry, language diff, actually was imagining two little goaty things bouncing about and butting her backside.  . Sounds like your well out of the mess anyway. Stay strong and safe.
  x

[BabyBat]

Thank you for sharing. Sorry this is hard for you.