Feel like sharing this with the fam--

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So about two months ago, my phone company unblocked my exBPD's number because it had been three months.

I didn't reblock her, Why? i have no idea. i think i was telling myself i didnt need her blocked anymore. So i didnt re issues it.

Got a call from her a month ago on a friday night at like 1:30 a.m. I was at a bar actually dancing with a girl when she called. I ignored it then texted her and said 'hey (her-name) can't talk right now whats up? '

Why did i do this? i dont know. I was doing really really well. I still am compared to where i was at, but especially about a month ago, i felt liek i really had my positive confidence back.

Anyway, she responded... in all caps "YOU UNBLOCKED MY NUMBER!" followed by another just was curious and wanted to say hi, so hi. I told her i'd call her in a minute.

So i called her and she told me how she has been, how she graduated, ect. how she's got in an internship in another country and she leaves at the end of the year. I said i was really happy for her.

She asked how i was doing. And im not going to lie, i gassed myself up. I told her i was doing really well. I was/ am. it felt great.  i told her i got a job offer, all my plans. But i kept it short because my phone was dying. Anyway, she texted me the next day and said, "JC!, you have to come into my work so i can, teach you all about my beer knowledge, 'it will change my life '

I said "yeah maybe, and really? you'll have to enlighten me" and that was the end of it. I dont really have any plan on meeting up with her, idk though she'll be in the other country for a year. I guess i just wanted to get this off my chest. it feels good to share . She didnt mention anything about the replacement, i don't even know if she's still with him.

I've been in a bit of a funk as of late. Idk whenever i do feel down, i think about her a lot, like almost to shame myself or something. But when i'm doing well, i see things clearly.

Why do you guys think she wants out of me coming into her work? She honestly kind of frightens me, probably due to all the pain i went through after this breakup.

[jc1010]

So about two months ago, my phone company unblocked my exBPD's number because it had been three months.

I didn't reblock her, Why? i have no idea. i think i was telling myself i didnt need her blocked anymore. So i didnt re issues it.

Got a call from her a month ago on a friday night at like 1:30 a.m. I was at a bar actually dancing with a girl when she called. I ignored it then texted her and said 'hey (her-name) can't talk right now whats up? '

Why did i do this? i dont know. I was doing really really well. I still am compared to where i was at, but especially about a month ago, i felt liek i really had my positive confidence back.

Anyway, she responded... in all caps "YOU UNBLOCKED MY NUMBER!" followed by another just was curious and wanted to say hi, so hi. I told her i'd call her in a minute.

So i called her and she told me how she has been, how she graduated, ect. how she's got in an internship in another country and she leaves at the end of the year. I said i was really happy for her.

She asked how i was doing. And im not going to lie, i gassed myself up. I told her i was doing really well. I was/ am. it felt great.  i told her i got a job offer, all my plans. But i kept it short because my phone was dying. Anyway, she texted me the next day and said, "JC!, you have to come into my work so i can, teach you all about my beer knowledge, 'it will change my life '

I said "yeah maybe, and really? you'll have to enlighten me" and that was the end of it. I dont really have any plan on meeting up with her, idk though she'll be in the other country for a year. I guess i just wanted to get this off my chest. it feels good to share . She didnt mention anything about the replacement, i don't even know if she's still with him.

I've been in a bit of a funk as of late. Idk whenever i do feel down, i think about her a lot, like almost to shame myself or something. But when i'm doing well, i see things clearly.

Why do you guys think she wants out of me coming into her work? She honestly kind of frightens me, probably due to all the pain i went through after this breakup.

[fromheeltoheal]

Why do you guys think she wants out of me coming into her work?

To see if an emotional attachment is still in place with you.

I didn't reblock her, Why? i have no idea.

Why did i do this? i dont know.

Idk whenever i do feel down, i think about her a lot, like almost to shame myself or something. But when i'm doing well, i see things clearly.

There's a lot of value into digging there and seeing what the real answers are; what do you think they are?  I don't know the details of your story jc, but seems the relationship is over and you weren't communicating with her, and when you did it triggered things that are still active for you, the good news really, a way to check in with your detachment to see how you're doing.  And the answers to those questions really don't have anything to do with her, and everything to do with what you're making it mean, a great opportunity to learn a bunch about yourself and enjoy the resulting growth yes?  Take care of you!