best thing to do if they break up with you

[william3693]

She is a high functioning waif.
Does not drink or do drugs
Has healthy hobbies we share,hiking in parks
visiting libraries etc.
This was our 3rd rc after 3 years of NC
Problems started about a month ago after I was supposed to go on a hiking trip with her
but could not because I had a cold (which I caught from her)

I said something about her not calling while she was gone.
She got very angry said nothing she did was enough for me
Things have gone down hill from there.This morning she picked up what she had
at my house and left.She seemed very angry

I am tempted to call her but think it is best not to.
Is it ever good to call or is it best to wait and see what happens?
 

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[Oncebitten]

William

I find myself in a similar spot... .I have chased mine for 2 weeks after a break up... .we get back together every other day... .I am going to stop calling and let her go for a while and see if that works b/c chasing her isnt working

[livednlearned]

I am tempted to call her but think it is best not to.
Is it ever good to call or is it best to wait and see what happens?
 

This is usually tied to whatever dynamic you have with your partner. If you tend to be needy or clinging, and there is a history of you chasing her, then it might be best to take stock and assess whether you are acting in a grounded way.

I said something about her not calling while she was gone.

How did you say this to her?