500 Miles and Mindfulness Goals Join Me?

[Lilyroze]

  All,

I set a goal with a friend, and my son to go 1,000 miles of walking and biking. ( have done about 500 miles so far this year)

So decided to go for a ride tonight.

Have been reading over some of my favorite authors that I put on another thread:

Joseph Murphy, Norman Vincent Peale and many mindfulness methods, as well as concentrating on Peace, Gratitude and Love.

I am finding an attitude of gratitude is my life mantra. I have always lived by code and as a family mission statement for my kids and I. I am finding at this point in my life it is helping so much more then I could have ever thought.

I am looking at new properties that will fit what I want more.

I have made a chocolate cake, hehe ( I know after riding) with fresh raspberry sauce.

I am planning a late summer vacation to a couple areas I want to move to.

I am learning more for my business.

I am learning system administration for Linux and many more programs needed to make the things I need come together.

ETA: Had to learn and help my sons rewire a ceiling fan that almost fell on me other night ( antique fan, Victorian home... .LOL) and we did it calmly and it was nice to have it fixed right. That is a plus for us!

How about you all? Need some more ideas to keep going on my path.

[fromheeltoheal]

How about you all? Need some more ideas to keep going on my path.

Whelp, my goals may not overlap with yours much Lily, but goals are goals yes?

I'm a rider too, rode a quickie 9 miles today between projects, and I'm converting the road bike I've had since 1987 into a fixie; my goal is to have it done and on the road by Independence Day.

I've been using brainwave entrainment to meditate, and also to get to sleep, for a while now and it's working well, and lately I've started integrating affirmations into my meditation, seem to go in deeper when I'm in the right state, and the goal is to do that for a half hour a day, so far so good.

Health and fitness has been a focus lately, and it's going well, although I've gotten sidetracked by work deadlines in June, so July is going to be Fitness Month for me, which is a little vague for a goal, but t-shirts will be sweat-soaked, this we know.

And for now, the goal is to finish this pile of peanuts and watch the next episode of the latest bingeworthy miniseries.

Thanks for the inspiration!

[heartandwhole]

Fantastic, Lilyroze, this is so inspiring!

I am with on the attitude of gratitude. It's probably my fave feeling of all time.    I have also been tuning in to it more and more lately and find that it puts me in such a lovely state of being.

So far this summer I've also traveled a lot, been getting into gardening, lots of swimming. Yoga and meditation, and been reading and writing more poetry. Also studying other subjects with an eye toward possible further education.  Looking forward to when the blackberry bush is full of berries, so I can make blackberry pie—yum!

Thanks for sharing your goals!

heartandwhole

[Lilyroze]

   fromheeltoheal,

The fixie bike project sounds fun and intriguing. I hope you get it done in time.

The brainwave method is awesome. I admire your dedication, the benefits will be enormous.

I have really been trying to find ways to build my affirmations into my daily life. I am on a 30 day challenge right now of gratitude and being in the moment, rather than hurt from past. Is getting easier, getting past the challenge of owning my personal power and not giving away.

Enjoy your summer, and goal challenges.

Thanks for joining with me, I am in gratitude.

Blessings,

[Lilyroze]

  heartandwhole,

I love blackberries as well, a pie sounds so lovely. Send me a piece... . I miss picking wild blackberries and blueberries on a beach. Want to move to an area of beaches again, or close enough to visit.

Yoga and meditation truly help, don't they? I admire all the fun and positive things you have planned for the summer. You are going to really be busy.

Furthering your goals and education will give you the golden key to opening new doors, and opportunities. Whether they are big or small, they have vast importance in our lives. Keep going and enjoy the journey.

Thanks for joining me I am in gratitude.

Blessings,

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Lilyroze, like what you're saying. 

I like to pay attention to little things that interest or intrigue me in the course of my day, then I make a mental note to follow up on why that thing engages me.  It could be anything: a bird song, a painting, a melody, a sunset, an old record album, a family photo, etc.  When I come across one of these "golden threads" that I find meaningful, I pull on them to see where they lead, which is generally to something that I really like, which helps me to understand myself better.

I enjoy playing and listening to music, which helps me to keep centered.  I like to be outdoors in nature, which calms me.  Keeping in touch with my body by working on my fitness is soothing.  Learning to let go is hard but helpful to me.  Sitting with my feelings allows me to appreciate who I am deep down, in my core.

LuckyJim

[Lilyroze]

  Hello Jim,

Your post gave me such a feeling of joy. I love music and nature as well. Thanks for the reminders.

I have been meditating and taking time for yoga, but really want to get back to some hikes and photography of nature. My son and I went on a hike a couple of weeks ago. It was lovely indeed.

I think a tea or picnic lunch is in order.  I use to mountain bike race with a bunch of women and then we would stop in the middle of forest for tea. I really miss that, no mountains here. But alas maybe someday in future, or real soon.

I love spending time in the kitchen so blackberry hand pies it is. I made some chai tea and just meditating on joy and being in the moment of gratitude.

As I wrote a dear loved one we were completely awestruck at the most incredible sunrise, viewed right from our very own doorstep. Photographs, and adjectives can never truly capture this amazing natural wonder, so we only took a couple, and then surrendered ourselves to the moment.

I keep a small notebook of ideas, thoughts and memories to blog, or write about, photograph etc. So love your idea. So many things are what weave the fabric of our lives our memories. So will think of some of your golden suggestions, thank you.

Enjoy the day and thanks for sharing.

I will leave you with " The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not fighting the old, but building the new." Socrates. That is what I am doing on my path. Hope your path today and the future is awesome.

Blessings to you and yours,

[Lilyroze]

Took off work today and made 2 gallons of sauce, 100 meatballs, 6 pounds of pepperoni and blackberrry jam for freezer. Also made 4 loafs of Italian bread, bottled some blackberry wine that was ready. Was 90 degrees in kitchen not sure what I was thinking but needed done.

Will do 5 pounds Greek gyro meat tomorrow.

Son wanted chocolate cake so have one in oven.

Now need to go and walk or ride before I want to eat it all.

Stressed? Maybe a little... . But at least being productive.  

Trying to remember there is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path. To be grateful for my children, home, friends, and all good in my life. There is so much and I do honor all that each day, but want to keep remembering to do the small things that bring joy.

Carpe Diem all!

Ciao ()

[snowmonkey]

Hi Lilyrose and other posters,

as part of my recovery I jotted down 9 different things that I wanted to work on for self improvement. Ranging from quitting smoking to getting my motorbike license.

What I would like to know, is would anybody like to join me? I don't mean physically join me, but record together how much time we actually manage to spend on learning a new language, exercising or whatever interests you?

For me, I would be more motivated if I felt we were in this together, I wouldn't feel that it was all so pointless, I wouldn't feel alone, I would be inspired to put in the effort to do the things that I know will ultimately help me move forward and be a better person.

I'm going to set up a spreadsheet and record the work I do on myself. If you are interested in doing this too or having me record these things for you also, then please let me know and we can work out a system and hopefully achieve our goals together.

Keep up the good work everyone,

Snowmonkey

[Lilyroze]

  Snowmonkey,

That sounds lovely. I am all about hearing another's journey, accomplishments or goals as well as sharing mine. Cheering on someone also spurs us to be better then we were yesterday.

Personal growth is great, anything that adds joy to our journey, evolving, and learning will last a life time. The paybacks are enormous. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” — George Bernard Shaw

I look forward to hearing about your moto bike license and foreign language studies as well as all the goals you are embarking on now.

I will start tomorrow with an attitude of gratitude and some of my goals.

Cheers,

[zonnebloem]

 

Hello! Thanks for sharing: "Life isn't about yourself, life is about creating yourself."

Sunday I'll go to another another church.

I am looking for a group of people where I feel connected with.

I'm not much into cooking, my garden is small but it brings joy and I live 17 km from the beach.

I often just sit and chat with people... .I easily connect.

Yesterday I sat at the beach, in Holland. I enjoyed a drink at the beachhouse, sat next to a family with 3 young boys. The youngest (and shy) one says: "Hello, I am Neils"
I said :
"Hello, I am Zonnebloem" So I started chatting with the Dutch parents but it felt so strange.
"The happy family" and the lonely hurt woman.
Brave to do connect with them and cowardish to heve left without a "good bye" to the kids...
Jealous end hurt because I don't have any?

[Lilyroze]

  Dear zonnebloem,

I am so glad you joined the thread. Yes go out and create what you need and desire for your life.

Tiny little gems of a garden are such a delight to the senses and a real treasure in our everyday lives.

Your life near the beach sounds so delightful. I want to live near a beach, again. The beach, Ocean or just lakes call out to me. They are where I want to be. I even love walking on a cold beach, that is deserted except for beach glass that to me is a present from the Universe.

Relish the days you have to sit by the water.

It does sound a sweet day that you could have a conversation with that family. You probably brought them more insight or joy, then you realized at the time. I would love to have a spot of tea or a drink with you then stroll to the beach... .hehe I love making new friends like you and can engage though more of an introvert that needs down time as well.

I have a talented older friend who use to go to my favorite beach in all of West Coast and paint. She was such a sweet person to send me a few of her paintings now that she is moving. What makes even more special she lost most to a tragic mountain fire.

I can see though why it might have bothered you, and sorry to read of your sorrow, hurt or troubles now on other thread. Keep your chin up, head and heels high and standards even higher.

“We know only too well that what we are doing is nothing more than a drop in the ocean. But if the drop were not there, the ocean would be missing something.”
― Mother Teresa

“You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.”
― Mahatma Gandhi

“It is said by the Eldar that in water there lives yet the echo of the Music of the Ainur more than in any substance that is in this Earth; and many of the Children of Ilúvatar hearken still unsated to the voices of the Sea, and yet know not for what they listen.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Silmarillion

“Those who live by the sea can hardly form a single thought of which the sea would not be part.”
― Hermann Broch ( let the water heal you my Dear)

Tell me some of your goals? What has brought you joy lately? What are you grateful for?

I am grateful you reached out and we can support each other here.

 

Much blessings,

[zonnebloem]

 

Hello Lillyrose,

Thanks 4 sharing the wisdom.

What brought me joy is that I had the intelligence to stop the ex BPD coming over this W-end.
He wished to see me (as if I never told him that "things" would be over if he did what he did) and I nearly fell for the good memory's with him.

I am glad he seems to be in peace as well to stay home and do his things.

I went to circus yesterday and will do so today ad tomorrow too.
It is an "open-air-festival-circus"... .it makes me laugh and I felt joy to feel that I have changed.
Somehow it feels like I needed to have been with my ex... .to've been with him to take some lessons and move out of the rs again. I feel stronger for it.
I value myself better.
I didn't feel the pain of not having kids, what I often do feel being on family-festivals.
Maybe because my ex would force me to accept his? May be because I see how much trouble they can bring? He surely did give me a family-allergy... .the opposite of his goal.
Anyhow, I enjoyed the atmosphere without wanting to be wih someone. I was happy to meet a woman I know from my volunteeringjob... .both happy to chat about work.
I did not feel needy and that was good... .just joy and enjoyment ... .some bordedom too.

Happy to wake up alone.

Happy to go to the market this morning and to take care of myself.

My goal? First of all... .to feel cured. Don't have a real goal but to see what the day brings.
Oh yess... .my home is messy and my gaol is to keep tyding up and getting rid of stuff.

Myself I have excepted paintings of an (ex)friend too. Till the point I felt burdened with it and only kept one... .nearly feeling guilth to get rid of the others... .knowing she'd ask for them. Fact that she was Always causing trouble about the most rediculous things and we stopped all contact, makes it easier to get rid of the stuff that I never asked for.

Terrible to've had an mountainburn!

My goal is also to go to church tomorrow and to feel welcome in a group.

Well... .I must stop writing for now and I wish you a good time!
All the best! YES... .beach and lakes and nature are just GREAT.

[VitaminC]

If you are interested in... .having me record these things for you also, then please let me know   

I'm in, Snowmonkey!
How will we do this? Set up another thread and post in there every couple of days or something like that?  

[fromheeltoheal]

Hey Vitamin, you could start with your values.  How's that going BTW?

[VitaminC]

Hey Vitamin, you could start with your values.  How's that going BTW?

Hello!   Fromheeltoheal - I don't know why I kept reading your name as "Freetoheal"! Sorry!

I did my values! I love homework and specific tasks!
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=296844.msg12788005#msg12788005

Working on this stuff together is a great idea, isn't it Fromheeltoheal?

How very nice you're keeping an eye on everyone. Totally giving you a hug. 

[zonnebloem]

 

Hello good morning Lrose,

I woke up at 4 am
Now I hear the birds sing.

Do you still tekst a "good morning" to your... .how do you call "him"?

I have hotelvouchers my "ex" paid for and are not gonna be used.
I kept our relationship for the benifit of our short trips. This is the first time we are not gonna use them.

Tonight is the gathering about my new volunteeringjob. This will change my mind to some more positive stuff.
how are you coping with business now?

Good day and what is the weather lke over there?

[Lilyroze]

Hi Vitamin C,

Awesome values. I hope the day brings you laughter and fun.

Hi Snowmonkey,

Got your DM will respond. Love the goals you set up, had to laugh close to some of mine. Find the joy in the day

[Lilyroze]

zonnebloem,

Wow the circus sounds so fun. There's something utterly magical about the circus the drum rolls, lighting, clowns and superhuman feats. Oh what a joy. Wishing you a magical day ahead.

Waking up to the bird sounds is lovely indeed. Hearing them chirp outside my window is like a good morning from the Universe. The best things in life are the people you love, the places you have seen and the memories you make along the way.

Let me know about your volunteering job, that does bring such fulfillment in helping others.Live,Laugh and Love. It is the only way to enjoy the true essence of Life. Everyone in life has something valuable to teach you, I hope you find something new on your path today.

Life is not pointed to erase or cut out  all those bad memories, But, Life is a needle to weave golden thread of sweet memories. Keep weaving the threads for the beautiful tapestry of your life.

Faith, Hope & Love. Faith can move a mountain, hope can heal a heart, and love can changes everything. It is the key. Life is many precious moments continuing daily,  today's moment becomes tomorrow's memory. So enjoy it all.

It is such a beautiful day, one of those days that you know you can't waste.