Hi Jgreen,
Welcome and hello
I've been hit, spit on, called every name in the book and now I'm being accused of cheating again. Everything is a trigger these days and there is no talking to her.
That's hard stuff to endure. Each one on its own would be difficult. Do you two have tender cycles, or is it pretty much a struggle all the time.
When you say there is no talking to her, do you mean she won't even respond to you? Or is it more that everything you say is met with anger and hostility?
What else is going on in her life? Having a special needs child is not easy. Do you two have any outside support?
Glad you're here. These are tough relationships to be in without people you can talk to.
LnL