Court on Tuesday, she burnt the past 9 months. So strange.

[bus boy]

Not that I care but my ex has had 9 months to show her willingness to make this new order work. She stuck to the order but was totally unreasonable in every other way. Manipulated the order in every way. As adults we are suppose to be able to work things out, outside of the order. Sadly this has never been the case. As my boundaries get stronger she gets worse, if it is humanly possible to get worse. She could of even faked it for 9 months. Yesterday, only days before court she went into narcissistic rage on me, even had her flying monkey BF in the mix, shaking his fist, giving me the finger. Again, not that I care. S9 and I had a great evening but we have court. She is placing s9 closer and closer to me.

[david]

My ex was most dangerous when she was stressed about something, including court, so be careful. She did things I never expected during those times. I have a video and an audio recorder and she knows it now so I protect myself that way.

[bus boy]

I wish I put my phone on vid. I would of at least got what she was saying.

[david]

My ex started with protection orders (three) the first of which floored me because I just couldn't believe she would stoop so low. Finally, having me arrested for assault and put in jail for two weeks completely changed my way of thinking about her ever getting better.
Ex is now a stranger to me and I don't let strangers treat me the way she did or tries to.

[ForeverDad]

The disordered people in our lives are experts at surprising us and catching us off guard.  So it's good for us to be prepared to handle a variety of scenarios.

The pattern started in my case months before we separated.  I'd leave a reasonably normal spouse in the morning and come home to a furious demanding stranger.  I'd leave a furious demanding stranger in the morning and come home to a reasonably normal spouse.  I just could not predict who I would find when I came home — or even whether she might morph while I was home.

[bus boy]

My ex and I were having a nice lunch one day and out of the blue she says, who dresses you, a 12 year old? I was wearing blue jeans and  tee shirt.