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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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JerryRG
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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
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« on: August 24, 2016, 06:26:49 PM »

Having a better day today

Talked to my pastor and he was encouraging and told me he thought I was doing very well under the circumstance.

He said to ignore my exgf and her crude insults and that my son "needs me"

I told him what my ex said about her bf being a better father than I will ever be, he just laughed.

The point of this post?

He told me, "you will never understand her and all you can expect is more crazy from her"

BPD, I do not understand you, I am thankful I don't.

How high is up? Any place is better than the bottom and that's where I was when in relationship with my exgf.

Hope everyone is doing well  
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fromheeltoheal
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Relationship status: Broken up, I left her
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« Reply #1 on: August 24, 2016, 06:54:22 PM »

It's great you're having a good day Jerry!

Borderline personality disorder is understandable and the information is out there, and since you're going to be connected to this woman for a while at least on some level since you have a son together, it may be helpful to learn about it.  For me, when I learned about the clinical side of the disorder it made the confusion go away immediately, her behaviors were still 100% unacceptable, but at least I understood why she does what she does, which helped a lot.
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JerryRG
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« Reply #2 on: August 24, 2016, 08:21:05 PM »

Thank you fromheeltoheal

No matter how hard I try to understand and how much I learn I can only begin to figure her out, the mystery is I somehow chose to see her as healthy on occasion then totally irrational the next moment. Am I splitting? I just don't get why I think this way, I assume it's what kept me trying to stay with her so long.

My sponsor told me a few days ago that my exgfs behaviour is very predictable and he couldn't understand why I didn't see it. I do flip flop on this, going from guilt over the belief I caused the problems in the relationship as my ex told me to a certain belief she's severely mentally ill.

Not sure why I keep myself so confused

I have been diagnosed PTSD, depression and I went through about 4 years of reoccurring panic attacks. I take one antidepressant and tried slowly tapering off these but I think I'm psychologically addicted to them. I don't take anything else anymore, since my recovery I'm very healthy emotionally.

Still I sometimes accept that I'm more ill than her, and just don't want to fully accept the severity of her illnesses
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