It is emotional abuse...and it is difficult to navigate...

[NewStart]

So I've been enduring months of silent treatment and no matter how strong you are it does take its toll... .I've started to notice PTSD symptoms... .last night for example I went to bed early and when I could here my uBPDw walking towards our room my heart rate would skyrocket... .then nightmares with her in them... .this kind of negative treatment IS real and it IS abuse.

"To deliberately cause harm to someone by use of the silent treatment, deny a person any emotional care, deny them any praise, starve them of love, affection, compliments, positive feed back, to regularly reject, degrade and deny a person any emotional responsiveness and to ignore a persons needs is mental abuse or also known as psychological abuse."

Still being strong and still going to try to use the tools here to pull out of this current cycle... .

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hi NewStart 

yes, silent treatment is very painful and anxiety inducing and im sorry to hear that youre having to deal with that. what precipitated it? are you seeing a therapist?

[C.Stein]

"To deliberately cause harm to someone by use of the silent treatment, deny a person any emotional care, deny them any praise, starve them of love, affection, compliments, positive feed back, to regularly reject, degrade and deny a person any emotional responsiveness and to ignore a persons needs is mental abuse or also known as psychological abuse."

I understand how you are feeling NS.  I highlighted the above because intent is important here.  :)o you think your wife is deliberately trying to hurt you or is it more a maladaptive coping mechanism, one that doesn't really have malicious intent?

I think it is important to make this distinction because it might make the difference between being able to save the relationship or not.  What are your thoughts on this?