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I need advice on what I need to do please read and give me any advice you can
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So basically me and my ex have been broken up two months I have tried to get her back and she keeps saying that she isn't ready for a relationship and that all she wants is to be friends right now. I asked her if she still had feelings for me and she says she doesn't feel anything for anything right now. 8shoukd I be patient with her untill she's ready and keep trying or should I just give up and go NC
Also she's the type that likes to test people if she trying to test me or just doesn't care and wants to keep me around until she finds someone else
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Trust me when I tell you I know how much this is painful and confusing. I hope things get better for you soon.
I'm not sure that there is much of a difference between your two choices. If she wants space, then you kind of have to give it to her or you'll just push her even further away.
I was given a similar option a few months ago. It hurt, badly, but I did it. About a month ago she reached out. It hasn't been completely smooth since but at least the door is kind of open now.
What most people will advise, and which is wise, is to work on yourself. Improve yourself, try and understand why you're in the situation, and make yourself better. That way if she comes back you'll be in a better position to handle it. And if not, you'll still be in a good situation.
Best of luck to you
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