NON NEWBIES: What article or advice or video really helped you on this site?

[Sadgirl92]

I am slowly reading the info on this site... .but was there an article or vid or moment that you remember that just woke you up? Made you feel like everything just may be ok?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[drained1996]

Sadgirl92, everyone has their own process and they all take time... .how much isn't linear.  For me, my journey came in pieces and no one piece was an ah ha moment.  No light bulbs per sa, just little understandings that kept me on my way.  Sure, some have those  moments, but I think the majority is a construction of understanding and processing... .
My answer... .is time and effort... .much like anything else.  Hope this makes sense.

[Sadgirl92]

That definitely makes sense. The more articles, posts I read the more I feel like I will be ok. So yes I understand. Just wondering if something someone found on here was comforting to them

[drained1996]

If you have not read the book Stop Walking on Eggshells, that's a good place to start.   

Also, if you will note the tools and lessons on the right margin of this page... .they are your guide in helping vastly improve your situation.  Most of us here understand we cannot change our person with BPD, but we can change how we react to and communicate with them.  Centering ourselves and being in control goes a long way in the improvement process. 

[Sadgirl92]

Thank you for ur advice. Just downloaded Eggshells