Welcome Knorrismom: I'm so sorry for your situation.
I am confused. Bill can be the most amazing person ever but cannot sustain it. We have a psychiatrist appointment soon and I am sure the diagnosis will be BPD.
I'm glad to hear that you are reaching out for help. Generally, psychiatrist appointment are short visits and lead to the prescription of meds. Is there a plan for counseling with a licensed therapist? A combination of both a psychiatrist and a psychologist can be a good thing.
Does your husband have a history of problems with anxiety or depression? Does anyone in his immediate family have a history of mental health issues?
I am foundation for my 11yo but he is foundation for our baby. I am ashamed I didn't hold him to same standards for my 11yo that I do my baby.
Are you able to share some examples of this? In what ways does he deal with your son differently? Is he in any way abusive to your son, or is it a matter on not giving him attention and validation?