Man i completely understand what your going through. My wife wanted to "seperate" with the only intention of working on our marriage which didnt make sense to me. But i said ok. She was still in co tact with me everyday telling me she loved me. 3 weeks later put her ring back on and slept next to me. Kissing me the whole 9.
In my case, she never asked for the ring back. She admitted that she was the aggressor but still it seems like I am being unfairly prosecuted in this situation. Her ring is worthless if she intends to divorce me in a few months. She claims she sold a previous ring she bought for $100 for $2 for the gems and threw the rest of the ring into the garbage?
She did leave but in our talks insisted that we wouldn't be having any kids. I guess I should have realized that the mixed signals at the time were lies because she had taken steps to close our Internet account. I trusted that she would calm down and her parents would accept our long courtship but they did not. Apparently they thought I was never good enough for her, she used to say. That was the eternal optimist in me not being real at the time in an unreal situation. We have always gotten back together so this time is a hard bullet to bite.
Something was fishy and i thougjt she was seeing someone else the whole time. A month in, after i find out the truth. She blows up freaks out after i confront her. And makes her new relationship face book official. Claims it wasnt an affair because we were seperated. My soon to be ex wife is crazy... .but knowing that did t take the sting out.
She had already started getting angry at me days before this situation and went on a trip with her family. I don't know if it was the disorder to be at fault, but she was getting angry for very slight inconveniences. (ie. I needed to go to bed and asked her to keep the noise down) It was strange at how quickly she seemed to find someone knew after this. Marriage is a whole new level compared to boyfriend/girlfriend to me and to her, it seemed like a meaningless title/pledge.
I read an article the other day and maybe it will help you. But its about how someone with BPD will usually find a "downgrade" for numerous reasons.
To be honest your better off. Dodged a bullit. Your almost out of the wake of her destruction. In my case getting the divorced filed as soon as possible gave me a sense of relief. I actually filed all the paper work yesterday( doing it all my self no lawyer) just to get the process going
I think the new guy is big on exercise and her parents approve of his heritage (same as her mother's), so that's very convenient. He also lives in the same town as her parents and speaks their language, but it seems like his English is very broken? I don't understand it, really.
I cannot wait to be out of this town. It was fantastic until the split and now it has become a nightmare.
It seems like she had already started dating the replacement before she had filed the divorce papers but made it official-official a week after I had received the papers. How can a marriage or relationship last in that kind of condition?
