I am in an inheritance dispute with my BPD sister. Need some free legal support

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Greetings all,
I am in my early sixties, as is my sister. I have been avoiding her for the past 40 years as she is an impossible person deeply invested in hating me (since she was a child), etc. It is clear that she has BPD. We are currently in an inheritance battle and she has dealt the lowest blows. I am located in Los Angeles, at this point, I would like to find a mediator to see if we can resolve the current dispute. She has been extremely odious that I actually would prefer to never again have any contact with her. But just as this is so, I have decided to stick up for myself and give her a good run for the money. I have a sound plan in mind. Emotionally and otherwise I am doing ok (long time meditator). But it has taken me the past 6 months to come to terms with the fact that she really hates me and wishes to deprive me as much as possible and harm me. Since I was the caretaker and have been the de facto estate administrator, this has been very difficult to accept.
I would appreciate any support and legal guidance that anyone may wish to dispense. I a not trying to mend the relationship. I only wish to win the battle, but with respect for all concerned. I feel great strength from my integrity and respect for my evil sister whom I will never wish to harm in any way.
Thank you.
Samantha Morego (my non BPD avatar)

[Samantha Morego]

Greetings all,
I am in my early sixties, as is my sister. I have been avoiding her for the past 40 years as she is an impossible person deeply invested in hating me (since she was a child), etc. It is clear that she has BPD. We are currently in an inheritance battle and she has dealt the lowest blows. I am located in Los Angeles, at this point, I would like to find a mediator to see if we can resolve the current dispute. She has been extremely odious that I actually would prefer to never again have any contact with her. But just as this is so, I have decided to stick up for myself and give her a good run for the money. I have a sound plan in mind. Emotionally and otherwise I am doing ok (long time meditator). But it has taken me the past 6 months to come to terms with the fact that she really hates me and wishes to deprive me as much as possible and harm me. Since I was the caretaker and have been the de facto estate administrator, this has been very difficult to accept.
I would appreciate any support and legal guidance that anyone may wish to dispense. I a not trying to mend the relationship. I only wish to win the battle, but with respect for all concerned. I feel great strength from my integrity and respect for my evil sister whom I will never wish to harm in any way.
Thank you.
Samantha Morego (my non BPD avatar)

[FamilyLaw]

The LA County Bar has a pretty extensive lawyer referral service, so you may be able to find a lawyer/mediator to give you an initial consult for a reduced rate.

[livednlearned]

There is also a wonderful site called www.highconflictinstitute.com run by Bill Eddy, a former social worker now lawyer, who has written extensively on what he calls "high conflict people" (HCPs), especially when they tangle with the legal system.

I believe his institute is located in California, and you may find a lot of good material about how to proceed.

If your sister has strong narcissistic traits, it may help to hold out at the highest water mark so that when you do settle somewhere in the middle (the goal all along), she feels she has won. This may be a bitter pill to swallow, and it can also be the middle way that allows her to move on, feeling that she is not inferior, which can be the gas that fuels the battle.