When will the crying be over?
Crying is what pain leaving feels like tammy. It will be over when it's over, and when it is you will be pain free, but in the meantime, as you move forward with your detachment, try shifting the focus from him to you and from the past to the future. Have you developed a vision for your bright future? Once we do that, and make it big and bright to it's compelling and pulls us towards it, and then take one step in that direction, and then another, going on faith initially, but after a while we notice progress, which creates momentum, and before we know it we're living that life of our dreams. And an upside of that, when we're living from our values and completely alive, we get mighty attractive, so it may not be a goal right now, but once you get to that place you'll have your pick of suitors, one of which will wrap his arms around you and treat you well, the complete opposite of how your ex treated you. It's a brand new world, one day at a time.
