help me

[sutrj]

Hi,

I have never written anything like this before. I am 28 and my partner is 24, she has BPD and im finding it increasingly difficult to help her.

The anger she shows is like nothing i have ever experienced, the harder i try the worse it gets.

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi sutrj,

So sorry to hear you are going through this. You will find so much support here and lots of ways to help. What kinds of concerns do you have or what kinds of behavior are you experiencing?

Also, I highly suggest that you begin to read the lessons on the right side of the page. THey are full of information about BPD and how you can help yourself and support your pwBPD better. Often the harder we try to fix them, the worse we make it. The beginning step in finding sanity is to stop making it worse. We do that by stepping back emotionally, validating, and not justifying, arguing, defending, or explaining ourselves.