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After my uBPDex broke up with me, she texted me a happy veterans day, thanksgiving, and Christmas. I responded with the same. I also wonder why she did so... .
Should I text her a merry Ukrainian Christmas this Saturday? I guess I'm missing her this week and that's why I would like to wish her well. My hesitation is because I don't want her to say anything nasty. I know if I text her, I can't expect a response because that might not happen.
Of course, I'm probably over-analyzing.
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My Ex never responded to me after I emailed him the "it's over" message. He responded to my 23 year old niece. Then, a few weeks later, on Christmas Day, he email my niece again to wish her a Merry Christmas telling her that he will miss seeing her at Christmas this year. Nothing to me. I suspect that he emailed my niece expecting that she would share the communication with me which she did. My niece gave a him a nice, simple generic response to my ex, nothing more. I think the communication of holiday greetings is just an excuse to try and keep a connection. I think the better part of discretion is to end the contact as hard as it is to do. This is what I am struggling with now myself. I terribly miss my ex and what we had but I truly know that with him having BPD, a relationship for he & I will never work.
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Its hard to ever figure out their intentions. I did not reach out to mine as I am certain he already has someone else. (he always does) Let that be her job
Germanic yes i struggle with that too. but I have played that game with him before and it is torture not knowing how he will respond or if he will. really a loose loose situation. So it makes NC easier. It protects me.
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