Again... number 1 advice... .put a clamp on all divorce talk until you get your legal cases cleared.
Perhaps you can highlight her deception in some way during the process of clearing yourself.
FF
let me ask you this. whats the fastest way to bring someone back? is it "no contact" or is it different for everyone?
weird thing is, one time she cut her mom out of her life, and it was 3 years, so she is ruthless. im guess thats like BPD overlapping with a narcissist?
like i said, id bring her back today if she showed she cared about the marriage, but im not getting any signals