Wise move, Aesir! Perhaps your ex was both fascinated and afraid of domestic violence and so subconsciosly egged it on. BPD mirrors and projects.
Or... .she was drawn to the attention, sympathy and power victimhood offers.
I think so too. She did say that she experienced domestic violence between her grandparents as a child but that was
them. Not
us. It saddened me that after so many years she was still stuck on these things. It seemed like I was still trying to convince her I'm not like that. She above everyone else should have known better.