So this happened tonight...

[Shedd]

Overheard the girl my ex has been flirting with tonight say if she is going to date someone she wants her to be a lesbian! Which concludes that her and my ex are not dating, but I think they're at least sleeping together.  

I'm pretty sure the conversation went something like this, whisper: "Why don't you just date (my ex)"

Reply, "If I am going to date a girl I want to date a lesbian."

I strangely feel ok right now about it all. I'm a little hurt they would talk about her in front of me.  I am pretty sure this girl knows I am her ex I mean come on.  But I am also feeling good because I am not getting too upset about it which means I am more over her, right?

I've been applying to new jobs because I need to cut this tie with her too. I have a job interview on tuea. I'm hoping it leads to a new job! If you could send good vibes my way that would be wonderful!

[gotbushels]

Hi Shedd 

It makes sense to feel hurt when people talk about an ex partner dating someone in a conversation, especially after a breakup. It didn't work between two people, and it makes sense to feel some sense loss. When one person is thought of to be dating a later, and different person, that sense of loss can feel more real.

If you're not getting too upset over it--yes I do think that can be seen as a indication of detachment. Or being "over her". When we have successfully detached from a relationship, it may feel better because we can experience that life is okay or better in this state. It does seem to have a comforting effect.

I hope things go well for your interview.