what do I do

[Depression = 72% of members]

I'm never right. Anytime I try to stand up for myself it backfires. Then I lose it and get mad. I don't want to get sucked into an arguments anymore. I want peace. I my wife to not hate me because I get angry.

[Imready]

I'm never right. Anytime I try to stand up for myself it backfires. Then I lose it and get mad. I don't want to get sucked into an arguments anymore. I want peace. I my wife to not hate me because I get angry.

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[kells76]

Hi Imready and

Sounds like you're done with having circular arguments and having conflicts blow up. That's understandable -- those really wear on a relationship.

How long have the two of you been married? Has there always been this level of anger and argument, or did it increase over time?

What topics or approaches tend to "suck you in" to arguments? That is -- what tends to "push your buttons"?

We can start there -- one step at a time