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Bennyblanco_nl

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« on: September 03, 2025, 09:36:27 AM »

Ok, so this happened to me this Saturday, I was asleep at 01:15 AM when I got a call from my exwPBD after she discarded me and went NC for two months.

I answered the phone and asked why she called after two months of NC, she said she felt bad because her uncle attempted suicide. We kept on talking for an hour and a half into the night about all sorts of things.

(Before she discarded me she had a strong kid wish, I told her I didn’t want kids anymore at my age (52).)

So, the day after the phone call, the next day we met for a few hours and I said, ok I will go all-inn with you and have a kid with you (just to see her reaction) It was like she paniced, the day after she said we probably shouldn’t had this conversation at that hour while having some alcohol.

She then said we should start from scratch again if it would ever happen to get together again.

After that I haven’t heard a thing from here since.

My question is, did I scare her with my reaction tot go all-inn or what?

Was this a typical charm attempt of her, and why did it last this short? And will she now charm again?
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Bennyblanco_nl

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« Reply #1 on: September 03, 2025, 09:39:24 AM »

Ok, so this happened to me this Saturday, I was asleep at 01:15 AM when I got a call from my exwPBD after she discarded me and went NC for two months.

I answered the phone and asked why she called after two months of NC, she said she felt bad because her uncle attempted suicide. We kept on talking for an hour and a half into the night about all sorts of things.

(Before she discarded me she had a strong kid wish, I told her I didn’t want kids anymore at my age (52).)

So, the day after the phone call, the next day we met for a few hours and I said, ok I will go all-inn with you and have a kid with you (just to see her reaction) It was like she paniced, the day after she said we probably shouldn’t had this conversation at that hour while having some alcohol.

She then said we should start from scratch again if it would ever happen to get together again.

After that I haven’t heard a thing from here since.

My question is, did I scare her with my reaction tot go all-inn or what?

Was this a typical charm attempt of her, and why did it last this short? And will she now charm again?
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« Reply #2 on: September 03, 2025, 02:45:04 PM »

Laugh out loud (click to insert in post) it seems the auto-correct gods haven't allowed the word h-0-0-ver to be used again.

Yes it was. And of course, a horrendous emergency, per usual. To make you feel bad and be her emotional regulator/caregiver. You shouldn't have answered. The kid thing was a way of making you a bad guy and not 'supporting' her...then when you did, the goal posts moved once more.

Probably had a failed rebound relationship or is feeling alone and abandoned. Then she disappears again when she gets her supply.

Seems pretty typical to me.
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Bennyblanco_nl

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« Reply #3 on: September 04, 2025, 03:01:37 AM »

Yep, charmed should have been H-oov-er-ed

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