I Broke Up with my Ex and Now I Want Her Back

[Jmanster]

Hey guys,

So I have been dating this girl for 3 months, she is BPD (already diagnosed) and this past weekend I broke up with her.

I told her that I was extremely worried that she was not taking care of herself. In the last month, I had to take her to the ER because she had issues with her liver.

I have never in my past relationships dealt with such stress, going to the hospital worrying if she will be ok. This happened 2 months in. After the hospital visits, I told her that I want a few days to myself so that I can mentally be alright.

On top of this, there were massive mood swings and irresponsibility on her part.

She saw this as a huge negative thing and she brought it up during our break up. Was I wrong to want space because of the stress?

I told her during the breakup conversation that we should both take some time to work on ourselves. She said ok.

The next day I call her and tell her to let's try and give it another shot and then she tells me that she wants to separate for a while to work on ourselves.

This is what she said via text messaging: "I think that maybe we should go our separate ways and if we realize we're exactly what we want, we can try again. Like, work on yourself for a bit and I'll do the same. If it feels like we're right for each other then, then we can give it another shot."

Can anyone decode this?

I WANT HER BACK because I keep second guessing my decision of ending it with her.

I am on day 2 of No Contact.

What will happen next?

I am a wreck and would appreciate any guidance.

Thank you.

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[g2outfitter]

I told her during the breakup conversation that we should both take some time to work on ourselves. She said ok.

This is what she said via text messaging: "I think that maybe we should go our separate ways and if we realize we're exactly what we want, we can try again. Like, work on yourself for a bit and I'll do the same. If it feels like we're right for each other then, then we can give it another shot."

Can anyone decode this?

There's nothing to decode... .she's doing exactly what you said you wanted. I have to agree with her, if it feels right then you give it another shot. Give it some time. Maybe in a few more days the reasons you left in the first place will sink in. If the relationship causes you so much stress perhaps you're not right for each other.