Hard time the past couple of days

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

So, I have been separated from my exBPD (counselor confirmed) for almost 2 months now. I'm having a rough time the past couple of days as I saw her with my replacement. I have recently found out that she is for the most part already living with him. This isn't the part that truly hurts though. She already has my child living with this man as well, and she isn't letting me see him. I have two weeks to wait until I get to see the judge for the first time. She isn't making it easy for me to spend equal time with my son. I am becoming so mad that I can barely pay attention to my own self care. I'm hurting so much right now... .

[ForMySon]

So, I have been separated from my exBPD (counselor confirmed) for almost 2 months now. I'm having a rough time the past couple of days as I saw her with my replacement. I have recently found out that she is for the most part already living with him. This isn't the part that truly hurts though. She already has my child living with this man as well, and she isn't letting me see him. I have two weeks to wait until I get to see the judge for the first time. She isn't making it easy for me to spend equal time with my son. I am becoming so mad that I can barely pay attention to my own self care. I'm hurting so much right now... .

[40days_in_desert]

Hey there ForMySon and welcome! I know how you feel so you aren't alone in your struggle. My situation is much like yours where my ex had a replacement as soon as she moved out. Well actually before. One of the things that worked for me was to find something active that you enjoy. I wasn't in the best of shape at the time but started biking to keep my mind from wandering while sitting in the house by myself where my family use to live. I found that when I was biking, I didn't think about anything so it gave me a break. I was biking 15 miles a day after about a month. The first day I could hardly do a mile. It's one of the things that helped me. Others will surely offer advice that helped them as well. Hang in there - you're not alone!

[VeganButEatMyMea]

I'm sorry man, I couldn't imagine.

As for the legal stuff... .you need to get evidence she isn't letting you see your son. Take screen shots of text messages, take all the gathered information, print it out, and show it to the judge when it's time. The courts don't like visitation being denied.

Try to get as much information as you can. Try to bait her as much as you can, but keep your cool. If you can show hostile behavior it will help even more. This is war, she is now the enemy, and we don't share information or show weakness with the enemy. You never know what she's conspiring to. Good luck.

[ForMySon]

Oh, I definitely understand. I have months of emails that are going to be handed over to my lawyer showing the games played. I just find it foul that this woman has kept my child from me for all of two months (except 1 day). I have a calendar that has recorded the interactions since I left. I hope the law will help me in the end.