How long have the two of you been together?
I can see that you're going through a tough time with her. The push/pull that you describe is very difficult to deal with. It's good that you recognize it for what it is; this means that you have something to work with. Learn all you can about BPD. There are workshops on the boards that give some good practical pointers on how to deal with communication, rages, etc. The articles are also very informative.
We've been together for 3 years now. The push and pull behaviour got worse as time went on. It seems to get worse when lots of things are happening or if she's under stress. It also seems to rise when she becomes jealous. She has told me that she was mad and jealous because she wished she was me. She mentioned that I had everything going for me and then couldn't talk anymore.
It seems like I'm the only one she can't talk to. She can talk to
anyone but me. She was just talking about how she was sad because we are not physically together and how it makes her angry and then she just pushed me away. She told me she will talk to me when she is ready... .but often when that happens she appears very distant and cold and its really unpleasant. its quite hurtful to be honest.
She's upset because I graduated, and doesn't seem to share the joy in my accomplishments. She won't talk to me, she blocked me and said I'm the reason for her unhappiness.
I'm currently working on myself... but I just don't know where to go... .she said a lot of hurtful things and this is the second time she has done this.
She gets mad over small things, like the vibration of my phone when a text comes through and becomes irritated and tells me to turn it off. I seen her face become quite angry... .its almost like she transforms into someone else.
How does everyone deal with this? How do you stay happy and wait till its over? I'm mixed up in all the thoughts and hurtful words... .any advice is much appreciated!