I've finally cut her out of my life. am I wrong?

[Depression = 72% of members]

My sister has been an incredibly angry person since I was young. After suffering years of her lies in attempts to make me look bad in front of my parents, I've cut her off. I wrote her a long letter stating many of her lies and told her that I deserve an apology. I told her that maybe in counseling, we could work on a relationship but that she needed to admit that what she did was wrong. She is always making comments that my parents treat me and my family better than her. We've cut her off many times only to let her come back in and hurt us again. This time, my husband and I are through with her. Why do my parents continue a relationship when they feel such pain?  I just need to talk to other people who are in the same situation.

[Drama Be Gone]

My sister has been an incredibly angry person since I was young. After suffering years of her lies in attempts to make me look bad in front of my parents, I've cut her off. I wrote her a long letter stating many of her lies and told her that I deserve an apology. I told her that maybe in counseling, we could work on a relationship but that she needed to admit that what she did was wrong. She is always making comments that my parents treat me and my family better than her. We've cut her off many times only to let her come back in and hurt us again. This time, my husband and I are through with her. Why do my parents continue a relationship when they feel such pain?  I just need to talk to other people who are in the same situation.

[Lilacs]

I hear you. My sister has always been the victim since she was 20years old or so. Always in terrible relationships I had to pick her up from. Then she eloped and as hurt as I was, I was glad someone else can deal w her stuff. Except he couldn't or wouldn't. So things were fine for a bit until she miscarried and she got mad at me for not being there for her (forget that she was on another continent). But instead of just being mad or disappointed w me she complained to our parents that I wasn't there for her and that was where things started going wrong. They got mad at me for not being there for her. And on and on. All her mean actions and statements toward me are deserved and all the things I said to her are extremely hurtful. I have apologized many times. She doesn't. Her apology is "I'm sorry  you see it that way."  She want sot agree to disagree. How can I agree to "I am a bad person and I ruined your life and you are wonderful." I can't have a relationship like that.

So when we went from 3 years of NC to some semblance of a relationship, it was a quiet 2 years. I kept my distance though. Then one day she said she was ready to talk. When I took her up on it's he blasted me again, everything was my fault, I didn't know the power of my words. No insight on her hurtful actions and accusations which started the nc in the first place. And so when I very simply said there is a lot of blame to go around she told me to stop contacting her.

It's a strange dynamic. I was all good until I was too spent to be therefor her. Now I'm all bad. Parents hear about it from her. And when I try to tell her there're many parts to me, some good some bad and so many other things, she goes NC.

You are not alone.