I Need Some Help On What To Do

[Rosey87]

Hey everyone, haven't posted on here for awhile. Been working on myself and making money. Things have been great the past month, my job pays great, I workout, I bought a new car, even went on a few dates.

The reason why I'm here is because she came back. Well kind of.
A couple of days ago my ex-girlfriend (PWBPD) added me on Snapchat. I thought, maybe she wants to talk. We didn't say anything to each other. She posted a few pictures and I looked at them and vice versa. I told my mother and she took it upon herself to text my ex and tell her to leave me alone. My ex said, I haven't contacted him. I was upset because I don't think she fully understands how much I love this woman. I immediately messaged her on Snapchat saying, I'm sorry, I love you and I miss you. I said also, if you feel like talking, I'll be here and left it at that.

She didn't respond but kept looking at my Snaps. I verified the number with the account and it is her. I don't know why she is doing this. It's driving me crazy but on a very duller scale, yet, crazy nontheless.

Do you have any insight into this? Anyone? I'll try to answer questions if asked. Thank you, have a great day y'all

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[smart_storm26]

I read your post and here's what I would like to say

I have no knowledge on what happened between you two that led to the breakup. I am assuming its her BPD behaviors which led to the breakup

My question to you is this.

Has she since then acknowledged her behavioral issues and tried availing professional help (like therapy) or doing anything to work on her issues?

If she has not then you will be making a mistake going back to her. You will have to keep this mind. When you will be going back to her, you will be going back to those same problems which separated you two.

Since she has made no contact with you, I will suggest you stick to your current course and focus on bringing your life on the right track. If she contacts you and wants to get back then you can discuss with her that she needs to work on her BP behaviors and then you both can decide the next step. Getting back to her might be tempting but it may not be the right decision for you because it looks to me you have already made some progress with your life after the breakup

[Rosey87]

Hi SmartStorm, thank you for the reply. I'm not putting too much faith and hope in it as I would like to. Still don't know exactly what's going on. I would like us to talk things out and even go to a therapist together to see what all happened. It was a multitude of things that occured between us but mainly, it was her sisters (who I believe have BPD as well) who encouraged her to leave me. If you have any more questions feel free to ask and I'll try my best. Thank you for the reply.