Don't trust.

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

My BPD said she changed so I let her in to be friends with her.
She seemed like she was changing and had great clarity... So I let her in from my current friend group.

She was two-faced and talked down about me to my friends.

Don't trust a BPD person.

[ShadowA]

My BPD said she changed so I let her in to be friends with her.
She seemed like she was changing and had great clarity... So I let her in from my current friend group.

She was two-faced and talked down about me to my friends.

Don't trust a BPD person.

[ShadowA]

To be more clear, she twisted truth of our relationship.
Made me out to be a bad guy in every way possible.
Even went far enough to talk down about my appearance.


Absolutely relentless

[Harley Quinn]

That must be so very upsetting for you.  It sounds like she still has hard feelings towards you despite the impression she gave you.  Remember that the behaviours we experience are based upon how the pwBPD is feeling in that moment and that this changes frequently.  How have you handled this situation?  Are you still in contact with her?

Love and light x

[Lilacs]

ShadowA
So sorry to hear this. My BPDsis said after 5 years of avoidance (3 years of no contact and 2 years of low contact) she was in therapy and ready to talk and answer my questions. The 2 years of LC I was very careful, anticipating the NC anytime. Well.  So it happened. What she was ready to talk about was how I had hurt her over all these years during the absolute WORST time in her life. And that there was no disputing this. That is what happened. Well. I replied that there are multiple perspectives to a complicated set of circumstances and that someday my narrative would be informative.

She told me never to contact her again. That was the clarification I needed. It wasn't me. It was all her and her BPD-ness. I'm glad I was careful to not let her in. She is ill. Part of me feels pain for what she must be going thru and what her kids are and will someday go thru when they let her down (as all kids do on occasion) and part of me is relieved I don't have to deal w her anymore.

Peace. I feel your sense of betrayal.
Lilacs