I do remember as child struggling to understand why my NPD and BPD had zero loyalty and yet I have been described as too loyal by a friend. Does this resonate with your family dynamic ?
Until I twigged that NPD was even a thing, I use to wonder why my friends were so tremendously loyal. Now I realise I should have been wondering more why my bro and mum weren’t. Yet BPD encourage mistrust of people other than themselves. I note my sister went the other way and never really had friends, but she stayed at home so was more isolated. I kept out of the home as I was the scapegoat. Could that be it ?
I also note that many criminals with a PD had a very unhealthy
relationship with their mother, the Kray Twins (Psychopaths) , Jimmy Savil (abused over 500 children), Dr Shipley (the biggest cereal killer the UK has ever seen) even Hollywood reflects this with movies like Psycho. But then I see many examples of normal supportive family members being cast aside by those with a PD, simply because their use or value has gone.
In our family my covert NPD bro was know in our Town as an abhorrent, sexist, racist, homophobe. The opposite of the norms in my family. No one would sit next to in the pub an my femail friend almost universally told me he made their skin creep. A covert NPD tends to be dysfunctional, so not as capable of getting narcisstic supply. Yet he was our BPD golden child, despite him knocking her about and demonstrating absolute contempt for her. She was drawn to all NPD type people, and it was bizzar that she would ignore much of this and defend them to the coar. Does that sound familiar to anyone ?
So my question is do BPD have loyalty as we know it ? Do any PD have this ? Look at Kim wrong un, he’s killed half his family, and various people instrumental at brining him to power. Now, I get that as he’s a psychopath, but so were the Kray Twins, and they famously stood true to their mother. But I assume that is simply as a clock of respectability. But what bout NPD or BPD ? I would value your experiences or input.
