Daughter-in-law has BPD behavior patterns

[Emeraldwoman]

Hi, BPD Family,

I need some help in understanding how to support my son who is married to a BPD wife.  He is now in the process of separating from her but they have 4 chav children together which is making this even more difficult.  Trying to have low contact with his wife is proving nearly impossible.  He does have a great therapist who continues to validate his position but is under intense judgment by her family, their church family, and some friends who just don't get it.

[GeekyGirl]

Hi Emeraldwoman and welcome! 

It's great that you're looking to support your son. It sounds like he could use it right now. I'm very sorry that you're all going through this, but coming here, you've really found a good place for information and advice.

What kinds of behavior is your daughter in law (DIL) exhibiting? How are your son and the children doing through this?

It's very hard to explain BPD to others who haven't been exposed to it or its behaviors, so I can understand how it seems like others "just don't get it." Fortunately, there are some tools here that you and your son can use to supplement the help your son is already getting through therapy.

Keep posting--you'll be amazed at how much information and insight you'll gain from others here.

[Turkish]

Go Emeraldwoman,

I'd like to join GeekyGirl in welcoming you here. 

We have a lot of great resources on the »»Family Law, Custody, Co-parenting, Divorce Board which can help,  especially veteran members who have been though this.  You might want to encourage him to join and post.  Being judged by so many groups in his social circle is certainly isolating,  yet he can take steps to assert his parenting rights.