is it BPD

[reebod]

i am at a loss as to what to do in my current relationship of 10 months, as the conflict is escalating and I am ready to call it quits. I have been trying to figure out what is happening or what is setting my sig other off and having a hard time understanding. I found a book on BPD describing how I feel, walking on eggshells, not knowing from one minute to the next when he will get upset. He often says I am playing games or messing with him when I am not and have told him over and over that I am not. He gets upset over things that don't make sense. He says "we are off" and then tunes into every little interaction between us to find something to back this up. His anger escalates and he becomes verbally abusive and physically aggressive/intimidating, but not touching me, just throwing things around and getting in my face.

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[pearlsw]

Hi reebod,

Welcome! There are some things you can do to help avoid situations escalating. (lots to read in the workshops) Why does he seem to be so upset lately? Do you live together? Does he have any awareness of his behaviors?

wishing you peace, pearl.

[Tattered Heart]

Hi reebod,

I"m sorry that you have been going through such a difficult time. The ups and downs can really take its toll.

When your pwBPD begins to throw things around what do you do?

You mentioned that you have told your pwBPD that you are not playing games with him. Does this cause him to escalate more? And does it get even worse the more you try to convince him?